Would you move your 2 year old?

[honeybun]

I am in a dilemma here! My 2.5 DD's room is perfectly set up as a nursery. We got her a big girl furniture and are planning on moving this furniture in as soon as the new baby's room (who is due at the end of March) is painted. My husband and his mother insist that we just leave my 2.5 year old DD's room the way it is and give it to the new baby while setting my daughter up in a new room. I feel like she will get resentful of the baby if we do it. What would you do? Would you switch the furniture around? or would you move your toddler to another room? I am torn. I am leaning towards the furniture switch, but the pressure coming from the others is getting to me
Thanks!

[rparker]

I think it depends on your daughter's temperament. I would just ask my 29 month old which scenario she preferred (probably several times and over the course of a week or so) and then go with whichever option she chose. And if she chose to have a new room, I'd be prepared to move everything later if for some reason she totally flipped out. If she were unwilling/unable to decide for herself, then I would probably just let her keep her current room.

[possum]

What does your daughter think about it? My son (almost 3) always has an opinion on things.
You could put out a feeler to see what she thinks without saying we were thinking of moving you into the other room. She might like the idea of having something totally new and different; I think it really depends on her personality.

Melinda

[carmel23]

nak

ask the child. my big kids liked getting the "new" thing-- they'd get a new carseat, baby would get the old one. they never minded giving up their old things for the baby to have. i guess a room is different, but she may like to get the new room and give the baby her old one. maybe not. be flexible. maybe set up the new room, and let her try it out. if she doesn't like it and wants her old room back then move the furniture.

[K1329]

I agree, it depends on your dd's temperment and agree that you should ask her. I wanted to move dd into the bigger room when ds was born. She was totally against it. She wanted to stay in "HER" room! Still, 3 years later, she doesn't want to switch rooms. Even though her room is smaller, she considers it to be hers, and won't budge! I also think the less changes the better when adding a new sibling!

Good luck!

[StrawberryFields]

We just had a baby. We moved dd into a new big girl room/bed and left the nursery as-is for the baby. I did not want to paint and set up a new nursery when I already had one. It has been a non-issue.

[LynnS6]

Whatever you do, do it fast! You don't want to have the baby 'take over' her stuff. She'll need a few weeks to adjust to the new furniture/new room, depending on what you decide.

FWIW, our ds is very resistant to change -- so changing rooms for him would have been a disaster. He didn't give up his crib until he hit 5 (and I forced him out because he was getting too long.) I don't think our dd would have cared. So, it really depends on the child.

[AmyKT]

We were pondering the same thing. We were perfectly prepared to do up a new room for the baby, but DD chose the new room without even being asked. She was DONE with her crib (done, done, done), so she seemed to associate the old room with a discarded way of life. If she is ready for a big bed, she may find the new room with the new furniture an exciting change. I'm so glad it worked out this way for us.