Are we messed up or what? - Page 2

[Lillian J]

Originally Posted by Needle in the Hay

Best of luck to you and your DS. Fwiw I don't think he needs to be "rode hard" or any such nonsense. The poor kid needs a break and a chance to spend time exploring his interests and finding people he clicks with.

I couldn't agree more. Those are the important priorities right now. He's been through a lot, he's at a difficult age both physically and emotionally, and he needs some gentle decompression/deschooling time in which to begin some healing and reconfiguration of his self image that isn't going to be quick or easy. He probably has the idea that he is messed up, and it will take awhile to get out of that trap. - Lillian

[Lillian J]

Originally Posted by kathymuggle

Heck, no he is not playing you...he is sad and confused. As per falling behind....My largely US'ed son got an 85% on his virtual geography assignment! Despite ourt highly relaxed, never psuh-it life style he pulled off an 85. So your son might not fall behind. And if he does...so what?? When he finds his motivation again, he will be capable of learning oodles of stuff in a short period.

I agree. It doesn't take long to get one's ducks into a row when one has comfort with oneself and a return of self-confidence. I've known and heard a lot of stories about children exactly that age - 12 is a very delicate time of life - and I've seen them be able to blossom over time. For that matter, my own son was mostly unschooled, and he aced the SAT, and was even annoyed that he missed three things on the verbal part that he felt he should have known.
Lillian

[LauraLoo]

As I read this thread, I kept thinking that you ds might just need something completely different to get comfortable in his skin.

I think this is a great book that you both may enjoy and find interesting and refreshing. It may give him some idea of what he wants and needs and the motivation to go there. There are so many ways to look at "schooling."
"The Teenage Liberation Handbook: How to Quit School and Get a Real Life and Education" -
http://www.amazon.com/Teenage-Libera...7667216&sr=8-1

I also like Llewellyn's book, "Guerrilla Learning: How to Give Your Kids a Real Education With or Without School."

[mum21andtwins]

Originally Posted by Momma Aimee

all learning doesn't have to be a battle -- but at some point it is going to be -- i hate math, hate it -- hate it -- and had to be forced to do any of it -- home schooled or public schooled ... it would have been the same ...

some times you jsut have to do it.

Reading fires me up -- yes at home or at school i excelled in reading .... math not so much ... not everything can be fun.

I KNOW that that is not true learning should absolutely never be a struggle but allways something you rush toward doing

OP I'dd pull him out let him deschool and find a way to educate him within his interests
There is so much out there these days that that should be doable Good luck