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what last name did you choose for your child(ren)?

Poll Results: what last name did you choose for your child(ren)?

 
  • 47% (143)
    we all have the same last name and it's dp's
  • 0% (3)
    we all have the same last name and it's mine
  • 28% (87)
    the kid(s) have dp's last name and mine is different
  • 4% (13)
    the kid(s) have my last name and dp's is different
  • 2% (7)
    we all have a hyphenated last name
  • 0% (3)
    the kid(s) and i have a hyphenated last name
  • 6% (19)
    just the kid(s) have a hyphenated last name
  • 0% (1)
    the kid(s) have a hybrid name (i.e. cypher+etheridge=cypheridge)
  • 8% (26)
    we did something else entirely (do tell what that is...)
302 Total Votes  
post #1 of 77
Thread Starter 
the poll pretty much speaks for itself....
post #2 of 77
DD has DF's last name. When we get married this summer, I will take his name as well.
post #3 of 77
I voted that we all have the same last name and it's DP's (but it really isn't, anymore, because the boys' dad and I are no longer married and I no longer use his last name).

We did this less out of tradition than out of convenience. To me, it's just easier to all have one name, and I have issues with my maiden name so I didn't want to pass it on.
post #4 of 77
The kids have my last name. I never ever thought about changing my name and I knew I'd be the primary contact person for the kids when they were school/extracurricular activity age. My mother and I have different last names (that rhyme) and, as a kid, it bugged the heck out of me (granted, this was the early 80s when the stigma of single parent households was probably a bit stronger than it is now)----so this seemed like a good plan. The kids do have dp's last name as a 2nd middle name and we socially go by a hybrid of our two last names (and have thought about changing officially).
post #5 of 77
My dd has my her father's last name. I plan on changing it when she is older.
post #6 of 77
We all have the same last name as DP. (though, when DD was born, she had his last name and I still had my maiden last name b/c we weren't married.)
post #7 of 77
I kept my last name when I was married, because I didn't really understand why I would want to change it. It's always been part of me, and just getting married didn't change me. But I don't necessarily feel strongly about passing it on, so my kids have DH's last name. Hyphenated names just seem long and cumbersome. I joke that now we have to have 2 more so they have my last name
post #8 of 77
I voted 'we all have the same last name and it's dp's'.. EXCEPT that I kept my maiden name at work. So professionally and for publications people know me by that last name.
post #9 of 77
I took dh's last name when we married so the kids have dh's last name.
post #10 of 77
I voted other.

One boy has my last name. One boy has dh's last name.

We looked on it as a matter of simple fairness. In ten years it has never been an issue with school, family, anywhere.
post #11 of 77
I vote other, Dh changed his last name and I changed mine to his when we married and all the kids have that name too.
So it can get confusing with the grandparents around, Dh and FIL have different names, but funnily enough my mother married a man with the same last name Dh had changed too (no relation) so people assume my mother is really Dh's mother.
post #12 of 77
I changed to DH's name, had DD1, then changed back to my name. All the kids have both of our last names now, it is annoying. I had strong feelings about passing on my name, I am the last one of my family, apparently no one (besides me) reproduces! DH had issues with his kids not having his name so hence the reason they have 2 last names. I am sure that one day they will want only one, and then they can choose what name they want.
post #13 of 77
I kept my maiden name. The dc's have my last name as their middle names and my dh's last name as their last names.
post #14 of 77
We settled on a (somewhat complicated, I admit) arrangement of first girl carries my name, first boy carries dh's, second girl carries dh's, second boy carries mine, etc.
post #15 of 77
We all have dh's last name. I hated mine and couldn't wait to change it. He liked his and didn't want something new (my first option), so I changed mine to his. No matter what I was doing though, my children were getting my last name. He's just lucky it's also his.
post #16 of 77
The kids have dh's name. Dh is the last male on his side of the family, so it was important to his family that the kids have his name.

I kept mine for professional reasons and I'm in a profession where hardly anyone changes their name, so that doesn't cause problems. (In fact, I don't think any of my current colleagues changed their names when they married (if they legally can marry).)
post #17 of 77
Combination of both our last names. No hyphen, but they go by both. I wasn't changing my last name, as I'm proud of my family name, and having the same last name as my ex didn't matter to me.

When my gf and I get married she wants to have my last name, which is fine with me, as it's her choice.
post #18 of 77
My DD has my last name, my DS has his grandpa's last name on his dad's side. The kids' dad was raised by someone not his dad and was given his step-dad's name. He did not want to pass that last name on, so we went with his real dad's last name.

Now I am moving in with my partner and only myself and DD will have the same last name as there will be no switching of last names with this move.
post #19 of 77
My DS has my last name. There is no partner involved as I'm a single mom by choice/adoption, so none of the options really applied.
post #20 of 77
We aren't married and before the baby was born I had suggested the hyphenated name but as we talked about it we decided to just go with my last name. I'm an only child and I know it means a lot to my dad. Well, all that changed when the baby was actually born. We didn't even have the first name finalized, and being unmarried he was known at the hospital as "Baby Boy Kim" (Kim being Mom's surname) ... well, that kinda changed everything. So long story short our son now has the conjugated hyphen-name. A fact officially noted by Our Government which my father will never accept but mom, dad and child all still are co-existing peacably as a family (good, since the whole name thing almost became our first big altercation since the first trimester).
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