what last name did you choose for your child(ren)? - Page 4

[boatbaby]

I kept my last name when I married DH and our son has my last name too. Part of me likes to dream about all of us taking my mom's maiden name (since she is no longer with us and has a name I identify with more). But I doubt that would happen. DH jokes that when his mom and dad die he would take my last name too, but I won't hold him to it. I think we need a whole new method of naming.

[zensven42]

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[phathui5]

We all have the same last name and it's dh's. It's important to me that everyone in our family have the same last name. My mom married my stepdad when I was 5 and it always bothered me that their last name was different than mine.

[ProtoLawyer]

My husband and I both use our birth names.
Our son will use my husband's last name--his is easier to pronounce and spell, and is much shorter.

I like my last name, but do not need to saddle anyone else with it.

[limabean]

I had always planned on keeping my maiden name when I married, but then I met and married someone with a completely awesome last name that was just too good to pass up, so we all have the same last name here.

[LionessMom]

Dh, I, DD1, and DD2 all have the same last name. DSD has her mothers last name and DS has his fathers last name.

[kcstar]

I didn't care to keep the name of my grandmother's ex-husband, who was NOT a good character.

Nor did I have any wish to keep any overt associations with my parents.

I was quite happy to change my name to DH's.

If I'd had a good relationship with my family, and felt like my surname was meaningful (perhaps if it had been my mother's maiden name, or her grandmother's maiden name), then I would probably have been less "traditional". But I don't have a lot of strong connection to my father's side of the family.

[SilverFish]

i didn't change my last name. i thought about it, but it didn't seem right. i didn't really want to automatically give our kids my huband's last name, but it was important to him since he's the only one that will be carrying on the name as most of his family was lost in the concentration camps in WWII. since i don't have the same emotional connection to my name, i thought that it was ok for him to have that. still bothers me that we don't all have the same last name, but there was no practical way to overcome that.

[Cascadian]

Never even occurred to me to change my last name. Most of the women in my circle, especially in professional fields/university careers/married later in life, did not change their names. 100% of my friends with PhDs did not change their names. It's just so interesting to me to read of all of the divorced women who then switch back and forth.

Having said that, DH and I discussed kids' last names to death before we got married. His parents didn't blink an eye when I didn't change my name, and even asked me what the kids' last names would be. (Very sweet to not expect the traditional route!). We first thought of matrilineal/patrilineal lines if we had one of each. But in the end, I gave them DH's last name, with mine as one of their middles.

This was my rationale: my last name is 13 letters long (too long to hyphenate); DH's line completely dies out with his kids - mine doesn't. And for the sake of ease at school, being siblings, I wanted the kids to have the same last name.

[DevaMajka]

My kids have dp's last name, but it wasn't a decision based on the default "get the man's last name" thing. I always swore that MY kids would have MY last name, whatever it was at the time they were born. But *I* decided that ds1 should have dp's last name because, tbh, I don't care if they have name ties to my dad's family. I love them and all, just...eh. And ds2 got the same last name, just because.

Dp thought it would be nice for his kids to have his last name. If dp had insisted or anything, then ds1's last name would have for SURE been mine. lol. I don't deal well with being told what to do.

Ds2 has my last name as a second middle name. I wish we'd done that with ds1 too.

[*Erin*]

the kids have dh's and my last names hyphenated

[ExuberantDaffodil]

My son has my last name and my daughter has hubby's last name.

[Apple Girl]

My kids, DH, and I all share the name that DH had growing up, although I consider that "my" name now.

I didn't consider keeping my maiden name, because it was really just my father's name. Why not take my mother's name? But that was just her father's name. Why not take my grandmother's name? If we were to start following a matriarchal line I wouldn't even know how far back to go.

Also, I like that DH's name was way in the front of the alphabet, and my maiden name was a W.

[pinksprklybarefoot]

DH and I chose a last name when we married. It is definitely not a standard surname, but it makes people smile when they see it.

Our two boys have our last name. For middle names, one son has the last name I grew up with, the other has the last name I took when I was 18 (my stepdad's).

DSD has a hypenated combination of the name DH grew up with and her mom's dead ex-husband's name.

[momasana]

I kept my maiden name. DS has DH's name. I sometimes think about changing my name to match but I'm too lazy to deal with all that is involved.

[SeekingSerenity]

Originally Posted by zensven42

Not that anyone will read this, but..

I have actually been reading them all!

[samstress]

dd has dh's last name, but i don't. it's not important to me that my children have my last name, only that i keep it.