Aaggh! I am so frustrated. We got custody of my ex's daughters 18 months ago because his 6 year old alleged (in detail) that her moms boyfriend molested her. Child & Youth told their mom that she would have to leave the boyfriend or send the kids to us. She sent them to us and immediately called her daughter a liar and has stood by her man. Directly after she freaked out his daughter recanted, but all the professionals strongly believed something happened and he failed a lie detector test so he was indicated of abuse. During that time (when he wasn't allowed around kids) mom was fine with 3 hrs of supervised visits a week and didn't want custody back unless he could be there. Months later he appealed and because she had recanted he won his appeal. Mom immediately filed for custody. The trial began and Child and Youth testified he should never be allowed around the girls, the abusers ex wife testified that he has no visitation with his own daughter because she alleged molestation, the court appointed therapist stated strongly that he should never be allowed around them and also stated that the little girl was once again saying it happened. The little one finally got up the nerve to tell her mom to her face what happened and mom freaked and told her she was ruining everything and now she was never going to be with her again. She also instructed all the girls to stop speaking to the counselor. Today was the big day in court, we were so relieved for an end in sight. Well we keep custody but now the molester is allowed around on weekends and the judge will review in 3 months. How did this happen? We have the best lawyer in the area and all those professionals saying this is unsafe. This poor little girl is going to be thrust around this man without anyone around who believes her or will protect her. How could the court think this is okay? There is no closure and our lives are still up in the air. Another court date means more legal fees. Is the judge just waiting for her to be molested again? We are going to try to appeal, but it is just such a disappointing outcome.
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3/2/10 at 2:15pm