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post #101 of 148
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Originally Posted by no5no5 View Post
Oh, please, we're talking about prehistory here. How do you think the food got into your mouth in the first place? I don't think these people had much problem with getting their hands dirty. And I really don't imagine it being easier to get food into a kid's mouth with your tongue than with your fingers. I don't know about you, but my fingers are much more dexterous. Not to mention that it's going to come back out again anyway (we're talking about babies here, right?) and you're going to have to catch it and stick it back in. I don't see the mouth being the most efficient method of dealing with this.
That doesn't mean it's wasn't done.
post #102 of 148
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Look, seriously. I am just saying what I heard on National Geographic ok? And apperently there are still cultures in the world that do it this way.

You may not believe it, but people who have dedicated their lives to studying different cultures through out history believe this was done.
I'm not some kind of anti-mouth-spitting fundamentalist. I am perfectly willing to revise my opinion if actual evidence suggests that I am wrong. In fact, I just found some, though it's pretty icky (and I still highly doubt that chewing food for an infant is evolutionarily advantageous). It doesn't answer the question of whether the food is spat directly into the mouth or not, though.
post #103 of 148
Oh, a world without lip kisses from my sweet boy is a world I don't want to live in!!!

I don't lip kiss anyone in the extended family, but DS, DH, and my DD (dear dog)..... you betcha!!! I just can't resist that cute little toddler mouth!
post #104 of 148
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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom View Post
Had to share this:

My 11 year old came running up to me and goes mom lets French kiss....then she grabs me and kisses me on each cheek. Running off in my shock and luaghter.


My 9 yo dd and I do, dd1 (15) doesn't kiss anyone, just hugs. I'm not sure what dh does with dd2.

But dh's mom kissed him on the lips last time we saw her (3 years ago). It bothered him (he was in his 40s) and grossed me out big time.
post #105 of 148
Okay, I stand corrected. Maybe I'm a social deviant, but I still can't imagine sticking my tongue into a baby's mouth.
post #106 of 148
I don't, except by accident, or on the odd occasion when DD says "Kees mouth!" Usually it's "Kees ears, kees eyes, kees milks".
post #107 of 148
I absolutely kiss my babies on the mouth. It's a natural and protective thing for breastfeeding pairs: http://www.unhinderedliving.com/motherkiss.html
I also chew my babies' food and will feed them from my mouth. I've seen monkeys do it and frankly it never occurred to me not to do either.
post #108 of 148
We kiss on the lips...I still kiss my 6-year-old dd and don't see that changing any time soon. My family growing up wasn't very affectionate like that, but it doesn't feel weird to me at all to kiss them.
post #109 of 148
I have a one year old, and she insists I kiss her on the mouth. If I turn to let her kiss my cheek, she follows my mouth. With her mouth wide open of course! And she insists on kissing several times in a row until she's done. I tease and say she's trying to make out with us. I think it's interesting because DH and I aren't really kissy, lovey people, so she hasn't seen anyone do a whole lot of mouth kissing. I'm always smothering her with kisses, but I rarely initiate a kiss on the mouth with her. But that's the only place she wants to kiss us!
post #110 of 148
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Originally Posted by KristaDJ View Post
I absolutely kiss my babies on the mouth. It's a natural and protective thing for breastfeeding pairs: http://www.unhinderedliving.com/motherkiss.html
I also chew my babies' food and will feed them from my mouth. I've seen monkeys do it and frankly it never occurred to me not to do either.
I agree with all of this and will also add that I have been known to lick my childrens faces clean. hehe

There was a poll thread about that a while back, and I believe I was one of the odd ones of the bunch. But I dont care.
post #111 of 148
not intentionally.. but dd at 4 months thinks a grin means wide wide wide open mouth! when we try to kiss her cheek, it's hard to miss that toothless ol' grin.
post #112 of 148
DD prefers to give kisses on the lips for me, DH, grandparents, and her caregiver. It's a puckered up peck, and very sweet.
post #113 of 148
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
There is an evolutionary basis for kissing that has nothing to do with mating though... It's call homemade baby food pre-blender years, aka chew it up and feed your child like many animals do, mouth to mouth.
Well, I know that my dad's mom chewed meat for her babies. I don't think she did this 'kiss feeding', like mentioned in the link below. I think she just pulled a wad out of her mouth and popped it in baby's mouth. No bothering with food grinders.


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Originally Posted by no5no5 View Post
Okay, I stand corrected. Maybe I'm a social deviant, but I still can't imagine sticking my tongue into a baby's mouth.
Well, ick, me neither.

HOWEVER, this has me thinking. If kiss feeding is older than sexualization of mouth kissing, then could it be that kiss feeding has gone the way of the sexualiztion of human women's breasts? The purpose of both is to feed our smallest, most vulnerable children. Something to ponder.
post #114 of 148
Absolutely on the lips! I kissed my parents on the lips until the day they died as well. Lips are only romantic IMO if there are romantic feelings to go w/ the kiss.
post #115 of 148
lip kissers here too. Both DH and I kiss both kids on the lips and our 6 year old boy hasn't been embarrassed by it yet. DP went through a phase when DS was a toddler where he thought he shouldn't kiss his son on the lips. But it didn't last long as our son would grab his face and hold it to kiss daddy on the lips if he got a kiss on the cheek instead.
post #116 of 148
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Originally Posted by journeymom View Post
HOWEVER, this has me thinking. If kiss feeding is older than sexualization of mouth kissing, then could it be that kiss feeding has gone the way of the sexualiztion of human women's breasts? The purpose of both is to feed our smallest, most vulnerable children. Something to ponder.
This is what I'm thinking too. Of course, kiss feeding and breastfeeding are not at all comparable from a nutritional or evolutionary perspective. (I will go ahead and use that rationalization to excuse my distaste for kiss feeding without feeling like a hypocrite.)
post #117 of 148
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Originally Posted by no5no5 View Post
This is what I'm thinking too. Of course, kiss feeding and breastfeeding are not at all comparable from a nutritional or evolutionary perspective. (I will go ahead and use that rationalization to excuse my distaste for kiss feeding without feeling like a hypocrite.)
You don't have to like it to see the connection.
post #118 of 148
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Originally Posted by journeymom View Post

HOWEVER, this has me thinking. If kiss feeding is older than sexualization of mouth kissing, then could it be that kiss feeding has gone the way of the sexualiztion of human women's breasts? The purpose of both is to feed our smallest, most vulnerable children. Something to ponder.
Definitely crossed my mind too.
post #119 of 148
We were lip kissers, and I sure will be when I have kids! We're a really, really affectionate family though...my sister and I are 16 and 20, and we hug and kiss both of our parents probably 4-5 times a day. Over the years, we've evolved past lip kissing, so my mom gets the corner of the mouth/cheek kiss and my dad does "ear sugar" where I'll hug him and he kisses my ear. I kissed both of them on the lips until middle school, I want to say, and have on a few occasions since then. "Lip sugar" is reserved for important moments, like when my dad went to Iraq. My nieces are 3 and 1, and give the sweetest kisses. I was so sad to leave last summer, and both girls gave me the biggest, sweetest kisses ever. Nothing like baby drooly smacks!
post #120 of 148
Waay OT. (cont.)
When DS was old enough to introduce solid foods I would bite off a tiny piece of food, I mean tiny, the size of baby asprin, and put it in the middle of his tongue so he could swallow it. (with my fingers, not my tongue). He learned to eat people food quickly and never was a choker, which was my intention. *

I don't know why, but it used to crack me up. Where other babies pick up random stuff and put it in their mouth, he would pick up edible looking stuff he found and try to put it in my mouth to see if I'd eat it first.

I thought it was just him, never connected the two. *But now that you mention the cavemen doing it, maybe it teaches them not to eat random stuff. ?
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