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post #121 of 148
No lip kissing here...although DD1 keeps asking for it! For us it's also something that happens between people romantically. The other thing is, I especially don't want her kissing people outside of the family on the lips and this is just one of those boundaries I want her to be aware of as early as possible.

I have relatives who have passed on cold sores to very little babies because of lip kissing and I want to avoid that...it just looks too painful!
post #122 of 148
Definitely lip kiss!! Didn't even realize that others don't until I started reading this thread. Interestingly, I still kiss my grandparents on the lips, but don't kiss my parents at all, although I do remember kissing them on the lips when I was little. I think, in my situation at least, it was probably the adults that initiated the stop.
I called dh to tell him about the thread and ask his opinion about lip kisses with your children, and his response was, "yeah, I remember girls in grad school with me saying that they would never breastfeed because it was too sexual." So yeah, I do think just as society has conditioned many of us to think of breasts as purely sexual, society has also conditioned some of us to think of lips as purely sexual. Insane!!!
post #123 of 148
Yes we do
post #124 of 148
Of course. I kiss family members and friends on the lips. So not romantic to me.

I have never met anyone in real life that doesn't kiss their kids on the lips.
post #125 of 148
My family kisses on the mouth, Dh's family doesn't. Our son is seven, he only kisses me and his younger cousins on the mouth. It's clearly affectionate and not sexual.

My in laws are very concerned about any "sexual" behaviors. Naked one olds coming out of the tub, breast feeding, and men (as in DH and his father) hugging are all behaviors they view as sexual. Maybe, it's cultural........
post #126 of 148
Yes - and of course we kiss lots of other places as well!!
post #127 of 148
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
I have never met anyone in real life that doesn't kiss their kids on the lips.
Everyone you've ever met has kissed their kids on the lips in front of you? Or do you ask each person as you meet them? Personally, I can't remember ever having seen a parent kiss his or her kid on the lips in real life.
post #128 of 148
I've seen the majority of dd's classmates kiss their parents on the lips at drop off or pick up. Every time I am at a playgroup or any parent thing, I see parents kiss their kids on the lips.

I see adults kiss their parents at weddings, funerals, etc. My friends kiss each other when we haven't seen each other in a while.

No one seems weirded out by it.
post #129 of 148
I saw super nanny kiss the kids on the lips last night (when she left temporarily, to see if the parents would follow through). Not even a family member, there! Maybe it is cultural.

My youngest and I kiss several times (on the lips) whenever we are on our way out of a grocery store. I don't know why it started, but he always remembers... maybe b/c he's at the perfect height in the seat of the shopping cart. So, not that I care, but I wonder if other shoppers think it's weird/creepy/inappropriate. Like I said up-thread, I thought kissing your LO's on the lips was the norm.
post #130 of 148
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Everyone you've ever met has kissed their kids on the lips in front of you? Or do you ask each person as you meet them? Personally, I can't remember ever having seen a parent kiss his or her kid on the lips in real life.
Oh wow! NEVER?! I see lip kissing between parent and child all the time. Playgroups, the elementry school, at the park, grocery store, lots of places!
post #131 of 148
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Oh wow! NEVER?! I see lip kissing between parent and child all the time. Playgroups, the elementry school, at the park, grocery store, lots of places!
Nope. That's why I'm so surprised to that the majority of mamas on here apparently do it. I'd say it must be regional, but I've spent a lot of time in a lot of different places, and a lot of time around parents & kids, so I don't know what it could be.
post #132 of 148
Yeah, I can only remember seeing it once (in New Zealand). I used to take care of a boy whose grandmother kissed him on the lips, and I remember being pretty taken aback by it - I didn't think it was sexual as it clearly wasn't, but it definitely struck a "Whoa, that's unusual" nerve. New Zealanders tend to be fairly un-touchy-feely, though, IME.
post #133 of 148
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Nope. That's why I'm so surprised to that the majority of mamas on here apparently do it. I'd say it must be regional, but I've spent a lot of time in a lot of different places, and a lot of time around parents & kids, so I don't know what it could be.
I agree. I don't think I've ever seen it. As I said, not one parent here does that. It would definitely stand out.
post #134 of 148
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In our family, mouth-to-mouth kissing is for people who are romantically involved. But I've had friends who do mouth-to-mouth kissing with their parents even into adulthood. It's not for us, but I don't judge.
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Originally Posted by no5no5 View Post
Everyone you've ever met has kissed their kids on the lips in front of you? Or do you ask each person as you meet them? Personally, I can't remember ever having seen a parent kiss his or her kid on the lips in real life.
So you have friends who've kissed their parents into adulthood, but you've never seen anyone do it in real life? Do you ask everyone you know like you asked me earlier?
post #135 of 148
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
So you have friends who've kissed their parents into adulthood, but you've never seen anyone do it in real life? Do you ask everyone you know like you asked me earlier?
I certainly do not. Nor did I claim to know the status of every person I've ever met. Believe it or not, I was once at a party in which we discussed the variation in kissing habits across cultures. Several of the people present (including a few I'd call friends) were European and they universally stated that they engaged in mouth-to-mouth-kissing with family and friends. I've no reason to doubt it, though I've never seen it happen.
post #136 of 148
Lip kisses here too! Only between my hubby and I and our children though. Everyone else gets a cheek kiss. But I'll take every last kissy lips I can get because it won't be long before the most affectionate I'll get out of my boys will be a teenage grunt! LOL!
post #137 of 148
My LO is only 14 months and DH and I both kiss him on the lips so far. I don't know what it will evolve into.

My dad, being Italian, always kisses me and my sister on the lips. His mother still kisses him on the lips. My mom, on the other hand, rarely even hugs us. DH's parents are huggers, but I can't remember them ever kissing their kids.

This is a pretty interesting survey. I agree with what others have said; parent to child kisses on the lips seem to be very cultural.
post #138 of 148
yep, we lip kiss
post #139 of 148
Kids are 14, 11 & 9. Their dad only gives cheek kisses to them all, I kiss Ds14 & dd 9 on the lips still. Ds 11 always turns his cheek to me, for a kiss, which is fine, thats what HE prefers, and I respect that 100%. Ds 14 will still give lip kisses, even around his friends, lmao! (Bye buddy, Im leaving for work! He will pucker his lips, lol etc....)

I am almost 30 and My brother is 32. We still kiss mom on the lips, but dad, I kiss him on the forehead or cheek, he is not a lip kisser either....

To each their own, whatever each is comfortable with.

**My Bff & I even give lip kisses.....Just not odd to some ppl I suppose.
post #140 of 148
We kiss on lips. But then maybe it's cultural? We're in the UK, and i also kiss friends, my dad and even my midwife on the lips!

Definitely not sexual to kiss my dad!

Both DD's dad and step-dad lip kiss her too. She will hold your face to get a lip kiss

I think if lip kissing is sexual for you then no, you obviously shouldn't lip-kiss anyone but your lover, but if it isn't then have at it with anyone who is comfortable with it!
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