Originally Posted by MommyHawk
I thought I was doing good - dressing nicer than usual (PJ's are my norm
), doing my hair, and wearing at least mascara...then DH said, during a board game we were playing that asked him to describe my style, said that I had no style at all, pretty dull...grays, beige, browns...
sooooo, I don't know what to do now, short of hiring fashion professionals. I've always felt lost in the sauce when it comes to dressing feminine. For the longest time I didn't want to BE a woman. I guess I'm still stuck in that mode. So my goal is to 'dress the part' more. And I'm not doing this for him. He loves me no matter what, which yeah, it's cute. But I WANT to look like a woman who actually gives a darn about the fact that she IS one. This is for me. I want to look pretty, sexy, and put together...just have to figure out how to do that without knowing how to do that!! LOL
A few suggestions....... (I can partially relate to not knowing how to do what I want the end result to be. I typically think it is because I didn't have a female role model growing up, but who knows....)
~ Look around at other women wherever you go. Notice what you like and don't care for. Once you get a general feel for the style you like, then start paying attention to details. You could talk to some of these women and ask where they buy this or that. The easiest way is to simply compliment that particular item. Most will tell you where they got it without further prompting. You don't have to talk to them, though.
~ Find a few stores with items you like. Try some on and see if they fit your body style. Finding places that carry clothing styles that fit my body style was actually the hardest part for me. Pay closer attention to other women and determine if they look enough like you (body-wise) to pull off the same styles. At this point, I had to start talking and asking.
~ Only buy clothing from this point on that makes you feel GOOD! Not just okay. Pass on anything that doesn't fit you well or doesn't accentuate your best features, or worse, accentuates your least desirable features. Aim for two complete outfits that you feel GOOD wearing that fit your lifestyle. Salespeople in certain types of stores are actually good at this. I don't usually pay much for clothes, but I did spend quite a bit of time in the malls when I was trying to figure this stuff out. Smaller, boutique stores still hire people with some fashion sense. I purposely ask the ones who dress the most like I want to dress. Not necessary the specific outfit, but in general (comfortable versus a bunch of layers, for example).
~ Once you have two complete outfits that you feel GOOD wearing, you can usually find a few more individual items to make up your own outfit (or two) or you can add in pieces to give more variety to the two outfits you already own. Either way, aim to get up to 3-4 everyday, feel-good outfits that fit your lifestyle.