In addition to everything else that is going on, I got a letter in the mail today from the school saying that ds is "habitually truant" and if he gets an unexcused absence or tardy for the rest of the year they'll be bringing it to court (and fine us, of course, $100 for first offense, $250 for each additional).
So one must ask- why is he "habitually truant"? Well, let's see.... could it possibly have anything to do with the fact NOBODY wants to take responsibility for him so on his bad days, when I'm literally dragging him into school and his para is WALKING AWAY telling me he'll be waiting in the classroom, he's a couple minutes late? Nah, that can't possibly have anything to do with it. Could it have to do with the fact that on the FIRST day of school he hurt his thumb (bad enough to need an x-ray at the ER and a soft cast) but the school failed to tell us it happened. So on the second day of school we had a meeting first thing in the morning with the principal, para and teacher and did NOT bring ds back to school until a couple hours later (after the meeting). THEN they called just 2 hours later saying that they allowed ds to take his soft cast off so I had to pick him up and bring him back to the doctor.... which counted as 2 absences (one for being late, one for leaving early... on the same day and all due to the schools neglect).
I am livid. I will, obviously, be having a talk with the school (and the higher ups who actually sent the letter) tomorrow. If they want to play this game, I'll play. DS will from now on be in the school building at 7:45 (when school starts). If he's flailing about, screaming and naked, on the floor.... not my problem. THEY can figure out a way to deal with it. His para walks away and Owen escapes out of the building at 7:46? Not my problem because I will be in the car driving away.
And the stupid thing is that for almost all of the tardies he has, he was at school when the bell rang, I was just dragging him from the car to the school. The bell rings at 7:45. His check in times are 7:52, 7:52, 7:47, 7:46, 7:46, 7:51, 7:55, and 7:51. I know one of them were due to the road conditions (snow but school wasn't delayed/canceled) and one of them was actually my fault (overslept) but the other 6 were all due to ds's behavior combined with nobody wanting to deal with him at the school.
The absences are stupid too, because they expect me to take him to the dr for every fever and I refuse. I'll keep him home from school, sure, but I'm not dragging him to the dr's germy office just for a mild fever.