I have struggled with this question.
In my case, I never tell anyone, even my family, the vaccine status of my children. I have listened to parents raving like lunatics about "those crazy people who don't vaccinate" in my presence, not knowing that I am one of those crazies they so fear.
Let's face it, this is all about fear, an irrational emotion. Using reason to address an irrational feeling is pointless in my experience.
So, I don't address it, don't argue, don't get involved in any argument about vaccination with those who are not inclined to question the status quo.
As to the OP's question, after thinking about it for a while, I decided that no one has the right to cause harm to my child in order to protect their child. Yes, vaccines are not 100% effective, and herd immunity exists (I am a believer), but if I think vaccines will harm my child, you cannot insist I harm my child to keep your child safe from the VPDs, even if your child is very ill with a disease like cancer.
The problem is that the medical/pharmaceutical complex has allied itself with politicians to create an all-or-nothing situation regarding vaccines. Selective vaccination makes sense to me, yet pediatricians, insurance companies, state agencies, state governments who vote to require vaccines, insist upon complete compliance with the CDC schedule. Parents are brainwashed by their pediatricians, who in turn are brainwashed by their medical training and by the pharmaceutical companies' money into believing that if they do not vaccinate completely, they are putting their darling children at risk of serious diseases, disability or death.
Bravo to all of you who are smart enough to choose not to vaccinate, or to vaccinate selectively. I was not smart enough with my older children, and I regret my decision to follow my pediatrician's recommendations regarding vaccines.
But I'm not brave enough to stand up to public derision, or to allow my children to be shunned (and they would be, believe me) if other parents knew my children were not fully vaccinated. I pray that this situation will change in time, but in 2010, fear and ignorance about vaccination prevails.
Also: Re the poster who dismissed Dr. Mercola, I suggest you reconsider. I don't like Dr. Mercola's website, but if you ignore the ads for silly stuff, there is some very good information on his site. Don't throw out the baby with the bathwater. Listen to the interview posted above. It's very thoughtful, reasonable and full of good information based on good science.