1yr Old DS emulating daycare child's behaviour!

[Preslie]

I'm a SAHM with a 3yr old DD and a 1yr old DS. I also take in another 1yr old boy (we'll call him DB) for daycare 2 days per week.

DB is extremely high needs. He is happy to be in my care, he seems excited when his parents drop him off, but throughout the day he requires 100% of my attention or he cries unconsolably until I pick him up and include him in whatever i'm trying to do. This, of course, causes me to pay less attention to my quiet DS (who doesn't require much attention to begin with). We are on week 4, and my normally quiet, good natured DS is emulating DB!!! My heart is broken, DS is crying whenever he is put down, he will not play on his own, and is requiring constant attention just like DB.

My husband is insisting I stop looking after DB. What should I do? Is there a solution to this besides turning away DB?

*Sidenote: I have witnessed DB in the care of his parents, and it appears this is his normal level of functioning. They dote on him constantly, and I believe he is shocked in my care that he isn't coddled constantly.

[butterfly_mommy]

Will DB let you wear him? I would but him up on my back in a wrap and then he is with me and snuggled up and included and then I could pay attention/hold play with etc DS. Also 4 weeks is not a long time to adjust to this new arrangement. I am also a SAHM with a 2 year old DS and my friends 3 year old DD (Ill call her SL) I care for 4 half days a week. I have been looking after her for 2 months now and we are just beginning to all get into a rhythm and adjust to the arrangement. We have actually just had two weeks were my DS has not been pushed or scratched by SL

[Preslie]

I think wearing DB could work...except i'm concerned that my DS' copy-cat behaviour has come from the extra attention DB is getting. Would DS seeing me wear DB all day enforce that further? I would prefer to solve it by being able to pay 50/50 attention to both boys, it just seems unfair that my own child feels neglected while I cuddle and wear another person's child. Although it would prevent the crying fits...and as long as there is no "behaviour" happening, there isn't anything to emulate...right?

Also, anyone have any thoughts on how to handle DH's concerns?? (always the most difficult of the children)