On a more serious note, I have struggled at times during this pregnancy with feeling like I want to be intimate, as a way to connect (and, um, for other reasons ) with my partner, and he mostly doesn't because of my physical condition. Even when he says it in a kind and gentle way (which is communication - unlike "your body is a turn off", which is more of a foot in the mouth situation!), I have occasionally felt really really hurt and rejected. It can be a really fragile time, hormones depending, and I'm so used to him being the one that wants to more than me (due to our regular sex drive discrepancies), that it is a bit shocking, and a sign that things have really changed.
I can't imagine if he was hurtful and so offhand with his remarks, as the OP's DH was. I would be pissed and defensive too! Hope you guys can work it out.
It's hard enough to deal with a partner who's sex drive isn't matching yours without cruel comments. I think there is a difference between being honest and being thoughtless.