Did it take you longer to conceive as you aged? - Page 2

[mambera]

Originally Posted by babygrey

You asked about 3 months- if it were possible, I'd probably stop TTA a few months earlier so you have a 6 month window... I feel like that's generally what I hear as a "normal" window pre-35.

Good advice... only I really really don't want to deliver earlier than December 2011.

This is because that is my graduation date from my residency program. I had my first baby during residency and I got 6 weeks mat leave + 2 weeks vacation. And that was so horrible for me and DD that I swore I would never have another baby that I couldn't care for myself, full time, for at least 6 months (and maybe a year). So I absolutely do not want to deliver again before graduation.

[ElliesMomma]

i think it depends on your (and your partner's) health, more than your age... AND fertility awareness. everybody "ages" at different rates, so it's really not accurate to assign "average" ages of when fertility drops to your individual situation.

my first was conceived when i was 37; she was a wonderful "accident." my second was conceived when i was 40; he was "planned for" -- but the ONLY thing i did to get pregnant was to watch for my fertile time by paying attention to my CM. i got a super long (10 inch) stretchy EWCM, and i knew that was an excellent sign of a good time to get pregnant. we DTD the NEXT day (about 36 hours after the 10 inch EWCM); DTD only ONCE, and -- i got pregnant, that easily, at age 40 (and while still nursing the first child). and for the record, he has turned out to be a super healthy kid also, just so you know you don't have to stress so hard about having a baby past the age of 35.

[mambera]

Originally Posted by ElliesMomma

just so you know you don't have to stress so hard about having a baby past the age of 35.

It's not just about 'will I be able to get pg.' I never wanted to be an 'older' mom, it just worked out that way bc of when I met my DH. I really want my kids to know and love their grandparents. I don't want the physical toll on my body of having babies in my late 30s/early 40s. Also I don't want to spread them too far apart bc I can't keep taking off big chunks of time from work. I'd rather slow down for 5-6 years and have those be the 'baby years' than have to rev up and down repeatedly. And if we end up wanting a 3rd we'll need time for that too. I'm thinking ages 31, 33-34, 35-37 isn't too bad but don't want to push the baby-making past that.

i think it depends on your (and your partner's) health, more than your age... AND fertility awareness. everybody "ages" at different rates, so it's really not accurate to assign "average" ages of when fertility drops to your individual situation.

Well, going by the population average is more accurate than assuming I'll be incredibly fertile into my 40s because a single random stranger on the internet was, right? Obviously lots of women are but lots of them aren't so *planning* to space babies into my 40s doesn't seem like a good strategy.

[MyFullHouse]

20- one night (oops)
23- one month (miscarried)
24- two months
25- one night, before AF even resumed (oops)
29- one night (oops)
31- with an IUD (ectopic)
33- one night, one fallopian tube (oops)

I get extremely embarrassed around people who struggle with fertility issues. If I could give away some of my fertility vibes, I would. After this one, I think I'm going to have my remaining tube sliced AND push dh into a vasectomy (which he's had multiple consultations for, but hasn't gone through with!)

[jodi5]

26 - 2 months - miscarried
26 - 1 month
30 - 1 month
34 (turned 35 while pregnant) - we were not TTC

[kalamos23]

25yo - technically an "oops" but we had had 5 oops months in the 2 years of TTA before and didn't get pregnant so not sure.
26yo - 1st month, miscarried
27yo - 6 months after the previous m/c, miscarried again - we TTC immediately after the 1st m/c and didn't wait
Currently on 4th cycle post the last m/c, no luck yet. I suppose you could say we are on the 12th month TTC with 2 m/c.

[Belle]

#1 aged 27, got pregnant the second month after starting ttc.
#2 aged 30, oops on the mini-pill. Miscarried that one.
#3 aged 30, 3 months after miscarriage, first month trying.

[Megan73]

Originally Posted by mambera

Well, going by the population average is more accurate than assuming I'll be incredibly fertile into my 40s because a single random stranger on the internet was, right? Obviously lots of women are but lots of them aren't so *planning* to space babies into my 40s doesn't seem like a good strategy.

ITA. It's also not just 'will I be able to get pregnant?' it's will I be able to deliver a healthy, living baby'?
No matter how *healthy* you are, the older you get the higher your risk of chromosomal abnormalities and pregnancy losses. Even if you can get pregnant, at 40 the risk of miscarriage is 42%!
Mambera, I think you're wise to TTC as soon as graduation permits.
I really never thought I'd be TTC my FIFTH pregnancy at 37 after a total of three losses, two of them early miscarriages likely caused by chromosomal abnormalities, which are much more common in women my age.
If there's any consolation, it's that three of those pregnancies were conceived on the first try (33, 34,37) and one on the second at 34.
Good luck for a speedy conception and healthy, happy nine months!