Hi. I'm new and was encouraged to check out MDC by a good friend that I finally spilled my "secrets" to. I'm just starting out trying to figure out what might be going on with my son (6) and am just totally lost and confused. I've noticed "different" behaviors since he was about 2. There were always excuses (mainly from my mother) when I tried to bring them up. Hyperactive? Well he's a boy. Unable to initate play or play in a group setting without starting altercations, often physical? Well he was the only baby in the family for 5 years. Scary aggressive behavior with his little sister (15 mos)? Well, he's jealous. Innatention and causing problems in class? Well, he's probably bored....he's so smart. Impulse control problems? Maybe he's just a little ADHD. After 3 years of hearing (and believing) a lot of the excuses, he hasn't adapted. In fact, it seems to be getting worse.
I finally took him to a psychiatrist, who sent me to a psychologist, who had us and his teacher fill out evaluations and has had us come in every couple of weeks for the last couple of months. His final verdict? He should be on meds...."well what exactly for?" I ask. He gave me no reason. Nothing close to a Dx...just try meds to control the behaviors. Go back to the psychologist. Seriously?? That's not gonna work for me.
So I started searching, reading, "googling" and I came across Aspergers. I really started picking him apart and realized you can hold his chin in your hand and his eyes will be ANYwhere but my face, he reactions are completely innappropriate to the situation (think smiling or making theatrical shocked faces when you're trying to repremand him for something), he can't tie his shoes or throw a ball and isn't anywhere close to losing the training wheels, then theres the social interaction issues, and he is OB-sessed with anything electronic.
I called his ped. and told him I wanted a referral to a pediatric neurologist. He put one in today, but....am I WAY off base here? Am I reading too much into things trying to figure out why I have no control in my house? Am I just doing things wrong at home? Or could I be on the right track? I'm second guessing everything and have no idea where to even start. Anyone have any suggestions? Words of wisdom? Road maps? I'll take anything at this point.
If you actually got all the way to the end, thank you so much for listening to my rant!
I finally took him to a psychiatrist, who sent me to a psychologist, who had us and his teacher fill out evaluations and has had us come in every couple of weeks for the last couple of months. His final verdict? He should be on meds...."well what exactly for?" I ask. He gave me no reason. Nothing close to a Dx...just try meds to control the behaviors. Go back to the psychologist. Seriously?? That's not gonna work for me.
So I started searching, reading, "googling" and I came across Aspergers. I really started picking him apart and realized you can hold his chin in your hand and his eyes will be ANYwhere but my face, he reactions are completely innappropriate to the situation (think smiling or making theatrical shocked faces when you're trying to repremand him for something), he can't tie his shoes or throw a ball and isn't anywhere close to losing the training wheels, then theres the social interaction issues, and he is OB-sessed with anything electronic.
I called his ped. and told him I wanted a referral to a pediatric neurologist. He put one in today, but....am I WAY off base here? Am I reading too much into things trying to figure out why I have no control in my house? Am I just doing things wrong at home? Or could I be on the right track? I'm second guessing everything and have no idea where to even start. Anyone have any suggestions? Words of wisdom? Road maps? I'll take anything at this point.
If you actually got all the way to the end, thank you so much for listening to my rant!
I think you're likely on the right track. He's likely controlling everything in even subtle ways to make his environment manageable and you're adjusting to him.
