worried about friend's baby... - Page 2

[Oliver'sMom]

Originally Posted by meemee

i am kinda torn on this.

do you know if the naturopath has not seen the baby? even just going with the mom to see someone else in the family?

depending on how your relationship is i would be hesitant to talk to her. how do you show concern without sounding meddlesome. plus as a mother she should have a good idea of what ebf babies look like and the fact that her son is so big must stand out for her. i mean other bf babies around dont look quite that large.

This is exactly how I feel. I really don't know what, if anything, I could say. I'm pretty close friends with her and we hang out with our kids fairly often. People are constantly commenting on how big her baby is, and she seems pretty defensive about it...totally understandable.

The baby has never seen the naturopath, and no one in the family has been to the naturopath since he was born. I don't do well baby visits either. I take my kid to the doc if he's sick or if I suspect something is up. This family goes to the doc even less than that, and I totally respect that.

I'm sure in a matter of time, my friend will realize there is something up...if there is anything at all. I just hope that there's nothing serious that needs immediate attention.

I don't think my friend has any supply issues, at least none that she's aware of. She works part time and pumps for her son while she's gone, so he does get the occassional bottle. He gets his milk straight from the tap the majority of the time though

The milestones are what worry me most too. Like I said, he isn't interested in his hands. He doesn't grasp things and pull them to his mouth. He doesn't babble....

[Panserbjorne]

is it her first baby? As in, does she have a frame of reference for the fact that things are progressing slowly, or may be off? First time moms don't always "get" what may seem very obvious to others since they don't know what to expect or watch out for.

[abiyhayil]

Originally Posted by Oliver'sMom

The baby has never seen the naturopath, and no one in thfamily has been to the naturopath since he was born. I don't do well baby visits either. I take my kid to the doc if he's sick or if I suspect something is up. This family goes to the doc even less than that, and I totally respect that.

are you sure she's not an MDC mama and reading this ? =p Maybe you could encourage her to do a little more muscle strengthening activities? Wrap him, tummy time and rattles? He may become more interested in grabbing and mouthing once he starts teething.

[Oliver'sMom]

Originally Posted by Panserbjørne

is it her first baby? As in, does she have a frame of reference for the fact that things are progressing slowly, or may be off? First time moms don't always "get" what may seem very obvious to others since they don't know what to expect or watch out for.

this is her second baby.


I think my plan of action will be to continue to be supportive and offer up any advice or suggestions if she asks for them. I know that if I were in her shoes, I wouldn't want people telling me I should do xyz with my baby. Thanks everyone for letting me think it all through here!

oh, and no...she isn't on mdc, although she would fit in perfectly here...she doesn't use the internet