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post #21 of 82
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Originally Posted by SilvanaRose View Post
I truly wish we all lived just down the street so we could all get/give coffee and hugs lol. What a great community we would make lol.
I wish this all the time.

And your MIL sounds like a gem.
post #22 of 82
We just made little people.


Of course shits gonna be crazy.


Right? s ladies. But remember this is like the hardest job in the world. So go easy no yourself.


Nico seems to fuss at times when he would have previously nursed... I just play him one of his favorite songs, and walk around with him-- dance -- and he seems to settle down. My 3 year-old is driving me crazy, but I've had so much going on with my big kids' school and everything else, DH, myself... tomorrow is our day to just hang out. So many relationships to manage! It is exhausting.
post #23 of 82
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SilvanaRose- YOU WIN! That comment is classic. . . God I love in-laws.
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Sara: I'm glad to hear that DH has taken your side on the matter. As he should! Your MIL is a real pill. I think the next time she says anything about not getting to see or hold Orin enough, I would firmly tell her that her attempts to alienate and demean you will only assure that she sees Orin less. Look her straight in the eye, don't finch, and grab your baby back. Seriously!

Mana: I know what you mean about the sore nipples. Everett has also started to clamp down when he's fussing at the breast. OUCH! Gums hurt almost as bad as teeth. Babies have some strong jaws. I'm glad things are looking up for you though. You deserve a break.

Mandy: I hope you get to the bottom of Levi's sensitivities.

lalemma: I'm sorry to hear about the death in your family. Ditto on the raising a family in isolation.
post #25 of 82
Random observation: Fenugreek really does make your sweat smell like...well, not maple, but fenugreek, which smells like herb-y maple. And I haven't taken any since my milk supply came back on Saturday. If it didn't have any other side effects, I'd take it instead of wearing deodorant. It seems to work way better...as long as you don't mind smelling faintly of herbs/maple.

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Originally Posted by Tattooed Hand View Post
Oh Cloud, I hope things with Nimbus settle down. It's been alot of ups and downs and it must be hard. I know that feeling of "what next, I don't know if I can take it." I had that for a good 4-5 weeks and for some reason I am feeling more stable even though all this latching on and off (the latest thing) is making my nipples sore...
Yes, exactly..."it's always something" seems to always apply around here! I used to feel almost guilty for having an "easy" baby who sleeps well most nights and isn't inclined to cry without serious motivation, but then I'd remember how much trouble breastfeeding has given us at every turn, and how many times I've encountered situations in which I can imagine someone else giving up, and not just someone who didn't know better. Who knew my excessively stubborn streak would ever be a positive thing?

*crosses fingers* Yesterday was a much better day...he didn't refuse to nurse once until around 11 pm, and yet we were fed and in bed by 2 am, and he's STILL ASLEEP 9 HOURS LATER. My poor boobs...

I hope your nipples get better soon. That's the one thing that hasn't been bugging me this past week. I've been wiping mine with diluted hydrogen peroxide after feedings to try to at least keep me from getting the thrush back from him, and I don't know if it's that or if they're just healing, but they're almost too soft now.
post #26 of 82
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Originally Posted by carmel23 View Post
We just made little people.

Of course shits gonna be crazy.
post #27 of 82
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Originally Posted by ithappened View Post
I hear that! I think the same thing.

Last night I mustered up ALL my nerves to tell DH how I was feeling (see what I posted above, basically an iteration of that).. He told me I was being too sensitive and just was looking to be coddled a bit. Needless to say, that shut me down and I left the room so I could go cry in the bedroom silently.
Men...

Not sure if this is at all helpful, but in case it is...one thing that helped me understand why talking to my DH never used to make me feel better was something I learned in a writing class about the differences between the way men and women think (male and female characters). Men tend to want to fix things...if you tell them about a problem, they assume you're looking for a solution. So I'd be just wanting to tell him about what was bothering me to get it out and get a "it'll be okay" response, and he'd either offer solutions that I already had thought of and knew wouldn't help (which annoys me) or say that he didn't know what to say (which annoys me even more). Until I took the class, I'd just assumed it was DH who annoyed me. And he'd get really frustrated, because he'd assume I was looking to him for solutions, but he wouldn't know how to fix things or what to say.

Anyway, whether or not I really subscribe to all of the stuff in that class about how men and women's brains are so different, the science-y stuff behind it all helped give me an opening to explain why those things bugged me to DH without blaming him for making me feel bad, and it has helped. I think he just didn't know what I wanted from him, and it probably got more and more frustrating for him every time I got mad at him when he was trying so hard to figure out what he was supposed to say. I think I just always expected him to know how to do that--he's seen enough chick flicks over the years with me, after all--but even super sensitive guys don't necessarily know how to react.
post #28 of 82
Hey to everyone!

Well, we hit the 12 wk mark Saturday and contrary to my expectations, balloons and streamers did not fall from the sky and Avett did not magically start sleepign through the night.

In fact, the last 2 nights he hasn't done his usual "goes down at 930 til at least 1230 or 1). He falls asleep for 20 mins and then thrashes himself awake. Repeat for 4 hours until I finally get him to sleep for 2 hrs in his swing. I am so disappointed and don't know what is going on - I thought sleep was supposed to get EASIER not harder!

And today he traded his usual 9 a.m. 2hr nap for a 15 minute one! WTF!!!

Other than sleep, things are going well. He is a cooing, smiling, laughing delight and we like entertaining him.

But SLEEP!?! Where is the sleep?!
post #29 of 82
Wow, everybody... hugs to all of you. It IS tough. Especially when you're in the thick of it with your first baby and have NO idea that life will feel more familiar and "yours" again someday. It will, but when you're in it, it sucks.

IH- my heart goes out to you. I had PPD/PTSD after my first and felt many of the ways that you do. But I also had a lot of family/friend support. I can't imagine being so alone and unsupported. Be gentle with yourself, you've got a lot on your plate.

Cloud - is the breastfeeding doctor Dr. O'Hara? If so, I just saw her last week. LOVED her. Ds got his tongue tie clipped.

Everyone on elimination diets - (esp Di Linh) I HATE starving and feeling grumpy. Sorry you're all going thru it. I've been able to add almonds, corn and cashews. YAY! I rely heavily on nut butters for quick easy protein so I'm SO happy to have almond and cashew butter back on the menu.

Name: Griffin

Age: almost 12 wks

Milestones: lots more smiles and laughs. got a slight tongue tie clipped last week. His reflux and hoarseness is getting better! maybe from the clip? My nipple pain has not subsided though, sadly. I guess it may take a little longer.

Thoughts: Any of your babes have dry skin? I'm pretty sure it's not excema. It's not red/itchy, just dry. I'm going to add more omega 3's back in, hopefully that'll help. I didn't use any moisturizer on dd, are you using lotion on your lo's?
post #30 of 82
I forgot to add: ds has had some random 5 hr stretches of sleep in the beginning of the night lately! I know it may totally be a fluke but I'll take it! Dd didn't have a 5 hr stretch until TWO YEARS OLD!
post #31 of 82
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Originally Posted by nina_yyc View Post
Thanks evinmom for the idea of donating breast milk. I got my name in to a local mama who coordinates milk donation in our community. So far she hasn't needed my milk but I have participated in her charity by giving freezer meals to families in crisis. I'm excited to do some volunteering that actually helps real people. Up until Elliot was born I spent 7 years on the committee or board of this or that group but didn't actually feel like I made much of a difference.

In general...the baby is easy but I have to fight every day against allowing my 3yo to remain a sociopath into adulthood. We've progressed from biting the baby to yelling at him until he wakes up. Lucky me
What a wonderful group to be involved with! It's so nice to know that there are so many people willing to help others in need. Sorry to hear that things are still tough with your DD. At least she's no longer biting. Some kids are just very spirited. My DD is so loud that Everett has taken to flinching whenever she approaches. I feel so bad for Everett. He's going to be deaf and blind before long. She loves to get right up in his face, her hair slashing his eyeballs out, and yells at him like he can't possibly see or hear her when she's breathing on him.


Yentroc: I'm glad to hear Griffin's tongue tie is fixed. It makes such a difference. Yay for being able to have your nut butters back. I love treenuts in any form. Too bad my babies don't. We use sunbutter here (from sunflowers). It's okay. A bit too sweet in my opinion, but the kids like it.

Truckerdoo: Hang in there! I've had the unfortunate luck of having babies who sleep worse as they get older until they are preschool aged. I knew to enjoy the first month with Everett because I figured it would be the most he would ever sleep for awhile. The good news is that they will sleep one day.

Cloud: ITA about the differences between men and women. When I just want to vent, I state up front to DH that I'm just venting so he just listens. If I need reassurance, I have to tell him up front that is what I'm looking for.
post #32 of 82
nak

is anyone else here shedding like crazy? all of a sudden my hair is everywhere...

Truckerdoo, that sounds rough about the sleep.

i ate something cross contaminated yesterday and today is a very bad day.
post #33 of 82
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Originally Posted by Tattooed Hand View Post
nak

is anyone else here shedding like crazy? all of a sudden my hair is everywhere...
YES! Man it happened early this time! I also got AF back...but I digress.

I still can't tell about the dairy. Today was pretty good...hmmm...I'm feeling very lucky. I have corn, soy, wheat and chocolate back. This week was milk and eggs. I'm thinking of holding off on eggs. I really didn't/don't expect milk to pass. We'll see I guess!
post #34 of 82
to everyone.... sounds like it's been a rough week.

I can't even remember if I already replied to this thread so if I did, ignore me. I'm still coming out of this PPD (although the sun we had yesterday helped) and the return to work next week is doing nothing to improve my mood.

Name: Mary & Emma

Age: 11w2d

Milestones: Found her fist, is grasping things better and has about 50% accuracy at grabbing things. Holding her torso up better when I'm carrying her. Still HATES tummy time and is not a big fan of sitting up on the couch either, I don't foresee her pulling herself up anytime soon.

Thoughts: Ugh, I want to be a SAHM. But I'm the primary breadwinner and I'm lucky I got 12 weeks off of work (even though it was ALL unpaid). DH is depressed too, with his dissertation looming over him and the stress of upcoming comprehensive exams. But when the sun shone yesterday and we went out for a walk with Emma, the whole world felt a little better.

AF is out of the building... I guess I'm lucky it was a short visit. My hair has started to fall out too (knew it would.... but didn't want it to, this is the best my hair has ever looked!). I'm almost back down to pre-pregnancy weight but my body has shifted and I can't wear any of my work clothes without being horribly uncomfortable -- and I've got a job interview on Friday where I need to wear a suit. So I can't wear what I have, and I can't go out shopping to try new ones on.... and instead of figuring out what to do, I just sit on my bum and hold Emma and try to soak in these last few days of maternity leave.

Stupid money. My life would be easier if I didn't need you.
post #35 of 82
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Originally Posted by Tattooed Hand View Post
is anyone else here shedding like crazy? all of a sudden my hair is everywhere...
Yes, this started about a week ago. My hair got incredibly thick with pregnancy, so there is A TON of it everywhere. The vacuum can't keep up. Everett's been losing his hair too so we're sharing the experience. LOL
post #36 of 82
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Originally Posted by doclegs View Post
Stupid money. My life would be easier if I didn't need you.
I know the feeling. When I went from being primary bread winner to SAHM we had to make some huge sacrifices including moving far away from all family and where we both grew up. The decision to stay working or stay home is so hard. Especially when living on one income or in some cases, none, is nearly impossible in today's world. I'm hoping that when DH finishes his dissertation he lands an awesome job and maybe you can be a SAHM one day.
post #37 of 82
Dairy failed. Oh well, I'm really just happy I can have corn, wheat and soy. I'm going to give him some time to recoup then try eggs, peanuts, tree nuts and tomatoes...of all of them, I really want tomatoes.

I've had a fantastic day. Levi has been pretty good, not that he can be bad, I guess he's not been too needy. And I've been cooking with the older kids, then they lost interest and I'm cooking by myself.

So far I've made granola, then granola bars, several chicken breasts which I shred and freeze and then put the bones and stuff in the crock pot for broth, vegan oatmeal cookies, pancake batter, garbanzo beans, sour dough starter, dough for pita bread and started bean sprouts and cottage cheese.

We've been reading Little House, Ma Ingles is my hero.

I ordered a meat grinder today so I can make my own sausage this weekend.

I'm going to make this for dinner. We don't eat a lot of middle eastern food so we'll see how it goes over. I'm thinking of trying my hand at falafel.

Sorry for bragging, but today I feel like a super.
post #38 of 82
Nimbus is starting in on hour two of a nap in the Ergo. Maybe I'll be a babywearer yet. I can't see how my breast bone can possibly make a comfy pillow, but he rouses enough to reposition himself occasionally and isn't complaining, so it can't be too bad.

I feel like writing a letter to myself to open the next time it seems like some low point of motherhood will go on and on forever...but I don't think I'd believe that advice even coming from myself. It's nice to be through the worst of it and out the other side with a little more mothering experience under my belt. His fussing is so much easier to deal with now that I can approach it calmly and with some tools I've learned.

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Originally Posted by yentroc View Post
Cloud - is the breastfeeding doctor Dr. O'Hara? If so, I just saw her last week. LOVED her. Ds got his tongue tie clipped.
Good to know! I'm holding off for the moment, because things are looking up this week and the thrush isn't getting worse (knock on wood), and I need to check into whether my insurance with cover a visit to her. We just spent $50 on a small vial of APNO. Luckily, it seems like I only need to use a tiny amount, so it will last awhile.

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Originally Posted by yentroc View Post
Thoughts: Any of your babes have dry skin? I'm pretty sure it's not excema. It's not red/itchy, just dry. I'm going to add more omega 3's back in, hopefully that'll help. I didn't use any moisturizer on dd, are you using lotion on your lo's?
Nimbus was rubbing at his face a lot awhile back, especially his nose and around his eyes. Turns out his skin was just dry...I thought I would know that when I saw it because he'd gotten very dry in the hospital, but putting Aquaphor on it like the doctor recommended got him to stop itching, so dry skin it is! I try to moisturize at least once a day, before bedtime, and it really helps. I could notice a big difference last week when I was too sick and tired to get to minor things like that every evening.

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Originally Posted by Tattooed Hand View Post
is anyone else here shedding like crazy? all of a sudden my hair is everywhere...
Yes. Shedding everywhere. I knew it was coming, but it's so annoying! It's bad enough to see half my hair in the drain after every shower, but I really hate picking it off of Nimbus' clothes and getting it out from between his grabby little fingers.

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Originally Posted by justmandy View Post
We've been reading Little House, Ma Ingles is my hero.
You know, I find myself thinking about her a lot lately...mostly in the "how the heck did she do it???" sort of way.
post #39 of 82
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Originally Posted by justmandy View Post
So far I've made granola, then granola bars, several chicken breasts which I shred and freeze and then put the bones and stuff in the crock pot for broth, vegan oatmeal cookies, pancake batter, garbanzo beans, sour dough starter, dough for pita bread and started bean sprouts and cottage cheese.
You get Super Kudos from me!

PS... I love, love, love falafel. Yum!!

I'm still off of Dairy too. *sniffle* What I wouldn't give for a big dollop of sour cream on a baked potato right now!
post #40 of 82
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Originally Posted by evinmom View Post
I'm hoping that when DH finishes his dissertation he lands an awesome job and maybe you can be a SAHM one day.
Me too!
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