I have a friend who has made VERY different parenting choices than I, but on the most part she's just "mainstream" while I'm "crunchy". Nothing to freak out about.
However, yesterday her Facebook status was, "ferberizing truitt for naps. he doens't cry much, but it tugs the heart strings".
Truitt is her ONE MONTH OLD SON.
Now, I do not advocate CIO, but I also know that it works for some when nothing else does, when a child who desperately needs sleep cannot settle themselves. I've also done enough research to know that ANY expert who does talk about using the Ferber method advocates only after 4-6 months, once attachment is in place.
I've read interviews with Ferber who talks about how he knows his technique is taken out of context to the detriment of children.
My heart is BREAKING for this baby who literally thinks that his mom has left him and will never come back every time she lets him cry in that crib. I am almost in tears now thinking that he is possibly being set up for attachment disorders.
Am I out of line?
Should I send her a pro-CIO link that states the 4-6 month starting time? Say nothing? Even my husband, who is a "your child, your choices" sort of guy, was a little unnerved by it.
However, yesterday her Facebook status was, "ferberizing truitt for naps. he doens't cry much, but it tugs the heart strings".
Truitt is her ONE MONTH OLD SON.
Now, I do not advocate CIO, but I also know that it works for some when nothing else does, when a child who desperately needs sleep cannot settle themselves. I've also done enough research to know that ANY expert who does talk about using the Ferber method advocates only after 4-6 months, once attachment is in place.
I've read interviews with Ferber who talks about how he knows his technique is taken out of context to the detriment of children.
My heart is BREAKING for this baby who literally thinks that his mom has left him and will never come back every time she lets him cry in that crib. I am almost in tears now thinking that he is possibly being set up for attachment disorders.
Am I out of line?
Should I send her a pro-CIO link that states the 4-6 month starting time? Say nothing? Even my husband, who is a "your child, your choices" sort of guy, was a little unnerved by it.
