I'm in a huge mess,what are my options?How to talk to landlord? - Page 2

[Ellien C]

Originally Posted by missmich

I have nothing to sell or barter with. There are no common areas to clean here really,it's a 6 plex and not a building. I could offer to show the place,but I think he prefers to do it,though I can offer.

I would still let your LL know that you are willing to do some work. YOU never know what he might need. He might have other units that need cleaning, he might have children who need care, he might need some kind of manager for the 6-plex. And since you aren't working, you are pretty available. Or, he might know someone else who needs those things.

[laohaire]

Also a lot of landlords paint between leases, so that could be a do-able chore for you. He may have other properties or another tenant leaving now.

[lilyka]

I am a landlord. If the rent was going to be late I would be thrilled if my tennants came to me and said "can I work out a payment plan. evictions are expensive. being without a tennant is expensive. Tell him wat charities you are looking into., Ask him what kind of help he accepts from charities (I accept some but not all because I have to qualify too) and if he has any suggestions. let him know you would like to stay until the end of your lease but that you don't think you can afford the rent any more. Clean your p0lace very well and let him know it is show ready at the drop of a hat. If he can get renters in before you move out it will minimize the impact it will have on him. i have the same set up with my lease (they agree to pay all 12 months regardless of if they live there.) as you have. So long as I don't have a gap I rteally don't care if a tennant fulfills their lease. So long as they leave it clean and ready for the next renter to move in and we have a next renter. but I have to ba able to show it without much warning for that to happen (I have a duplex so there is no model unit).

in the mean time try i would give your landlord some of the money you have. even if it is $25. I don't what kind of place you are renting but if my tennants don't pay my kids don't eat, my electricity gets cut off etc so having them pay me any amount is helpful. It also shows me they are taking action.

some options for finding rent - talk to yuor welfare social worker. she may have some suggestions. I know the city here does some sort of emergancy rent relief (one month of rent - they called me once but I declined to accept. i had already filed an eviction notice after 9 months of late/no rent. it would have just prolonged the inevitable and I suggested they use the money to help her find a place within her budget. She quit her job to stay home with her kids which is all well and good but you cannot afford a $600 house when you are only getting $300 a month in income, anyway.) Do you have a job? will you be getting one? If I know I was just holding on for the next paycheck I would be more than willing to wait. Get a note from your employer stating when your next/first paycheck will be arriving. what are you options for moving out? can you find a place? It pains me to say this but really if you do just up and leave what is the worst that can happen. you are borke., your rent is late. you have no money and things are not going to clear up in the morning. is it going to wreck your credit? chances are that ship has sailed. are they going to sue you? for what? I have several tennants I could have sued for thousands of dollars in damages and back rent but for reals, all I would have had was a bunch of legal fees and a peice of paper saying I win. They did not have money to pay me, a pay check to garnish, a tax return to garnsh, a trust fund to cash in. : really it was to my benifit to just let it go. I was just glad to be riud of them. SO really I wouldn't stress the whole lease agreement, breaking it or even back rent. if you have a place to go I would just go. but be sure the place is spotless when you leave. if it can be cleaned clean it. every nook and cranny. if you are going to stiff your landlord for rent and remainder of the lease you owe him that much. you will still lose your deposit but whatever. don't worry about it. honestly if my tennants cant pay the rent (and sometimes things happen and you are just no longer able to pay) I would rather they looked honestly at their situation and said "I am sorry. I just can't. I am going to go so you can rent to someone who can pay you" than drag it out because of their lease. But you have to have a place to go.

I hope you can find a way to work this out. But first and foremost I would be honest, and would talk to him as soon as possible. if you stay keep him updated daily/weekly with where you are at. I have forgiven hundreds of dollars in late fees and stuff just because my tennants we honest and let me know what was going on quickly. or because they made an honest effort to make payments and keep me informed.

[Mulvah]

Originally Posted by missmich

I was working as a nanny until the family got daycare then was doing housecleaning until I got sick. Well pregnant,but I thought I was just super,super sick. I've placed ads for other childcare jobs and answered a few with no luck so far. I'm not I can handle working now though. I'm still really barfy feeling most of the day.

I have nothing to sell or barter with. There are no common areas to clean here really,it's a 6 plex and not a building. I could offer to show the place,but I think he prefers to do it,though I can offer.

I've asked around on CL and kijiji if anyone wants my place or wants to be my roommate and take the lease over when I move etc... but only since yesterday. I'll keep asking around.

There are a couple of different guys interested in a place,but to be honest I'm now scared to have any roommate,especially a man. The last two messed me over financially. One threatened me and one stole from me,makes me fear that the next one will do even worse to me. If he's a man he's much stronger and can cause more harm to me. Probably not going to happen,but that fear is still there and I'm going with it.

I think you got some great advice on where to go for help.

I'm going to be blunt here and suggest you speak with your practitioner about getting something for the nausea/sickness. Not accepting work when you are unable to pay the bills and have no ER funds is not a good idea.

(FWIW, I think it's wise to avoid a male roommate in your situation.)

[happyhats]

Mulvah, i think she was saying the place let her go for being off sick (she didn't go in because she thought she had the flu and not she was pregnant).

[Knittin' in the Shade]

What a frustrating situation! I know (oh, believe me, I KNOW - 4 times over) how awful "morning" sickness can be (I had hyperemesis with my first two, where I was so sick and dehydrated from being sickt hat I needed IV fluids). it's debilitating. With my last two pregnancies, I was able to find some relief from vit b + unisom, enough that Iwas able to keep very small meals down and just be nauseous all the time. I think that you've got to find a way to work through the sickness though - you need a roof over your head and your baby's head! Somehow (I still don't know how - just sheer determination) I was able to go to school full time and work part time with my first pregnancy (even with the hospitalizations for IV fluids!) I'd suggest being frank with your landlord and telling him that you're unable to pay right now but want to set up a repayment plan. Then, I'd do everything in your power to find a job.

[TCMoulton]

Originally Posted by happyhats

Mulvah, i think she was saying the place let her go for being off sick (she didn't go in because she thought she had the flu and not she was pregnant).

I believe Mulvah was replying to her comment that she isn't working now because she feels barfy during the day:

I'm not I can handle working now though. I'm still really barfy feeling most of the day.

In you current financial position I would have to agree with Mulvah. You need to see if there is something that will help with your morning sickness as you really need to have some income coming in right now to pay your rent and other bills.

[happyhats]

oh, gotcha, I must have overlooked that sentance somehow!

[laohaire]

Are the cleaning chemicals bothering you?

Can you use better chemicals? Seventh Generation, perhaps, or even your own concoctions?

Or is it really nothing to do with the job per se but just plain feeling to barfy to work at anything at all?

[lilyka]

For whatever reasons she is not able to post on this thread any more but was able to get a pm to me and told me it was ok to share.

She did talk to her landlord and he is being reasonable and giving her some breathing space.

the cleaning job she had befopre was for a guy into drugs and other illegal activity. Since her cleaning involved cleaning up after his parties and handeling the drugs (including cocain) she did not want to do that any more to protect the baby. I think that was a swell choice.

she is on anti nausea meds. they are starting to work in the morning but not so much the evening.