I feel like I'm going to lose my mind with dp! He has no desire to be physical AT ALL. No real kissing even. It started about 2 weeks ago. He started to get nervous that he would hurt me, made jokes about the baby feeling what's going on. He knows we can have sex during pregnacy, but has no physical attraction to me at his point what so ever. He pushes my hand away, tells me he's reading, half asleep, etc..He has made a few comments saying that he thinks it doesn't work anymore, but then when I try and get him in the mood he'll make comments about how I just expect him to be turned on like before, like it's somehow my fault because I'm not trying enough. I try everyday to the point where he actually pushes me away, so I don't think it's me. WHen I try and talk to him about it, saying that lot's of men are weirded out by baby in the body of the woman they are havin sex with, he gets upset and says that I make it worse by constantly talking about it. He even made a comment about never having a problem before getting aroused, implying it has something to do with me. .
I guess the part I'm having a really hard time with is that we have had an amazing physical relationship up until this point. 2-3x per day, its been a big part of our relationship and helps us reconnect at the end of the day (dp owns a restaraunt and is gone from 7am till 6pm almost daily) and relieve stress from work, etc. Plus we just connect amazingly well physically, period.
He said 2 days ago that he wishes I would be closer to him, but I dont' know how to tell him that his loss of labido has made me feel farther from him. He still loves to cuddle, constantly tells me how attractive he thinks I am now that I'm pregnant, how much he loves me, etc.. I just don't know what to do. My fear is that this is going to over into post natal and he'll be wierded out from watching my push a baby out, and won't want to be physical because we have a baby now, etc.
I dont' know that there is anything I can do at this point, since he won't talk about it. We have a very open and honest relationship, so it's hard for me to have this thing that he won't talk about with me. I feel sad and frusterated, and wonder if one's dp loses labido during pg, does it come back for them?
I guess the part I'm having a really hard time with is that we have had an amazing physical relationship up until this point. 2-3x per day, its been a big part of our relationship and helps us reconnect at the end of the day (dp owns a restaraunt and is gone from 7am till 6pm almost daily) and relieve stress from work, etc. Plus we just connect amazingly well physically, period.
He said 2 days ago that he wishes I would be closer to him, but I dont' know how to tell him that his loss of labido has made me feel farther from him. He still loves to cuddle, constantly tells me how attractive he thinks I am now that I'm pregnant, how much he loves me, etc.. I just don't know what to do. My fear is that this is going to over into post natal and he'll be wierded out from watching my push a baby out, and won't want to be physical because we have a baby now, etc.
I dont' know that there is anything I can do at this point, since he won't talk about it. We have a very open and honest relationship, so it's hard for me to have this thing that he won't talk about with me. I feel sad and frusterated, and wonder if one's dp loses labido during pg, does it come back for them?
