Have a new kid by friday...? - Page 2

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by Viola

All I can think when I hear this title is that I've tried to have a new kid on Friday--but the school insisted I drop her back off and take my own child home instead.

The paraphrased excerpt doesn't sound bad to me, though. Delaying consequences for bad behavior and then explaining it to them as a privilege they've lost, or that they should treat others in a way that helps them to want to and be able to do things for the kids is something we already kind of do. I had read years ago about the idea of trying not to give consequences in the heat of the moment, but waiting until things were calm and taking away a privilege then.

Although what I usually end up doing is letting the storm blow over and then talking to my child about it and letting them know that me not doing what I said I might do (that but you promised thing pisses me right off, no it was not a promise) is really related to many different things, and if things go well tomorrow, we can try and do such and such.

But, what if it was a promise? That kind of changes things, imo. There's no way I'm going to promise my kid something, then change my mind because I don't like some unrelated behaviour, yk?

[hakeber]

Originally Posted by JMJ

What would you think of your husband reading a book called "Have a New Wife by Friday?"

I'd think: he can have one tomorrow! Don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya, see ya later!



I don't tend to read discipline books, though maybe I should. I don't think I'd give this title a second glance.

[hakeber]

Just read a couple paragraphs...I LOATHE advice books masquerading as comedy...or is it comedy masquerading as advice? Either way, it's like The Parent Trip or The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy/The First Year.

Are you trying to make me laugh, or are you trying to really give me sound advice? Can you stop making my pain the fodder for your stand up routine please?

Just really rubs me the wrong way. ETA: I really can't take any writer seriously who uses "dis" as anything other than a prefix.

But I might read it for an empathetic laugh on unruly children...should of course my ANGEL of a child ever drive me to distraction.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by hakeber

I'd think: he can have one tomorrow! Don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya, see ya later!

Too right!

[Deir]

I got this book from the library and NO I do not recommend it. It seems to advocate a lot of head games. One thing I remember specifically was he categorizes thing into mountains or molehills and one of the "mountains" was a child interrupting you on the phone. it went on to say something about how this shows alot of disrespect or something and will inevitably lead to everything falling apart (Of course I am exaggerating and truly don't remember exactly what the consequence of this was but I know it stressed me out) I don't like books that cause too much stress. It ends up causing me to second guess myself and usually leads to more inefficient emotion driven discipline. I prefer Mary Sheedy Kurchinka and I actually like most of the nanny 911 book too. For me,understanding where the kids and myself are coming from and keeping things in perspective is the key to being effective.

[Deir]

Originally Posted by hakeber

Just read a couple paragraphs...I LOATHE advice books masquerading as comedy...or is it comedy masquerading as advice? Either way, it's like The Parent Trip or The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy/The First Year.

Are you trying to make me laugh, or are you trying to really give me sound advice? Can you stop making my pain the fodder for your stand up routine please?

Just really rubs me the wrong way. ETA: I really can't take any writer seriously who uses "dis" as anything other than a prefix.

But I might read it for an empathetic laugh on unruly children...should of course my ANGEL of a child ever drive me to distraction.

I totally agree!!!