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post #41 of 51
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Originally Posted by kgianforti View Post
Is that what you thought I was doing since I was the one that asked about the Babycenter/PBS milestone charts and mentioned that I had to click to the 23 month old stuff? Not trying to be confrontational, just curious
On, no no. To you and everyone else on here, I was writing with my IRL experiences in mind. Several times I had the unpleasant experience of a mom walking up to me and asking how old my child was, only to be unhappy w/ the answer. My daughter is 16 months and more the size of a 2-3yo. She wears some 2T and mostly 3T clothing. For some reason, it bugs the heck out of other people and I've come to really dread the "sizing up" from other parents.

For example, when my 7mo was walking, I guess I somehow was at fault for making them feel bad about their children. And I think that's sad, b/c they are feeling bad, maybe even worried or insecure...when instead they should be embracing their children regardless of a milestone/date.

I didn't mean to come across as criticizing you guys. My post was about mainstream culture.
post #42 of 51
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Originally Posted by itsmyturn View Post
Many of the parents you see posting on this forum are doing so because they don't have place in their daily life where they are free to discuss and show pride of their children's accomplishments. Its OK for a parent of a 12 month old to be proud when her child starts walking but you are not supposed to be proud if your 9 month is doing it, because you must be bragging or comparing.
In all honesty, this is partially what I was doing to start this, in the first place. I am really pleased that it has started a nice discussion. It is helping me, as a first time mother, learn a lot by reading everything. I was SO proud of her and I was unsure that this was a development for this age, especially from when everything I have read/been taught through my literacy degree, it did not seem so. Besides the fact that I had people of whom, until the recent video, disbelieved every little thing I shared that I was so proud of her doing.

I wanted some sort of basis to start with, since I was gifted, myself, growing up. I want better for my daughter than what I had. I got "lost" so to speak and when I was younger, at least in school, the sponge for a mind that I had was wasted, more-so when I wasn't emotionally ready, at 6, to be placed with 10 year olds. It made me lazy in school and not reach near the potential and eventually it caused me to fall behind in areas where I had excelled all my life because I didn't bother, and was never pushed, to keep up once my level was reached.

I've always just felt out of place and wanted to fit in, but have had huge difficulty doing so. My little monster is catching up in the gross motor skills where she had been behind...very quickly. We are adding categories and subcategories to her knowledge compartments in being able to identify things and, because her memory is very good, it is going quickly.

The only issue I am seeing at this point is that she needs to move from activity to activity, from book to book, picture to picture, very quickly and is impatient if it is not done so. She is also very stubborn. She lets me know when she is done doing something and doesn't wish to do it anymore...very quickly. The thing that makes me laugh, though, with her persistence, is that she keeps trying to figure out how to put her shoes on...she's done this at least since 6 months. She knows they go on her feet and she keeps trying to get them there but can't quite figure out why she isn't successful when she holds the laces and repeatedly "fishes" the shoe at her foot...or when she leans forward, holding onto the shoe's tongue, mashing the shoe along the side of her foot. It's so gosh darn cute and fun to watch. She gets mad when MOMMY tries to put them on though; and even more mad when mommy has to take it away to put it on.
post #43 of 51
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Originally Posted by breezyleigh View Post
She is also very stubborn. She lets me know when she is done doing something and doesn't wish to do it anymore...very quickly. The thing that makes me laugh, though, with her persistence, is that she keeps trying to figure out how to put her shoes on...she's done this at least since 6 months. She knows they go on her feet and she keeps trying to get them there but can't quite figure out why she isn't successful when she holds the laces and repeatedly "fishes" the shoe at her foot...or when she leans forward, holding onto the shoe's tongue, mashing the shoe along the side of her foot. It's so gosh darn cute and fun to watch. She gets mad when MOMMY tries to put them on though; and even more mad when mommy has to take it away to put it on.
that sounds VERY familiar! We've always tried to let DD help as much as possible. At 14months she can get a T-shirt on mostly by herself is we help in steps (like hold on the head so she can put her head through and then point her hand in the general direction of the arm hole and she does the rest). For shoes it took longer but now she can balance on one foot so she actually almost was able to put on her shoes by herself today for the first time! It's taken A LOT of practice and we have had days when all she wants to do is see mom put on and take off her clothes/shoes for hours...
post #44 of 51
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that sounds VERY familiar! We've always tried to let DD help as much as possible. At 14months she can get a T-shirt on mostly by herself is we help in steps (like hold on the head so she can put her head through and then point her hand in the general direction of the arm hole and she does the rest). For shoes it took longer but now she can balance on one foot so she actually almost was able to put on her shoes by herself today for the first time! It's taken A LOT of practice and we have had days when all she wants to do is see mom put on and take off her clothes/shoes for hours...
She does try to help out, and has for months, but in simple ways, like holding her arms up when undressing her, or pushing her hands/arms through and her legs. It was amusing, today (since we didn't have to be anywhere, at least), when she reached up twice and pulled her onesie off when I was trying to put it on her. I call her, "mommy's lil monster," for a reason
post #45 of 51
There is such a wide range of abilities. When my "gifted" child was 6 months he could accurately identify his colours and shapes by pointing. In books, in public, at home, or on toys. All of his photos at that age involved him sitting with a book in hand or doing a puzzle, I didn't realize it was unusual. By 8.5 months he was accurately pointing at familiar words in books or the newspaper. Of course he didn't talk until he was 2.5 though . I actually thought those What to Expect milestones were written for the *latest* a child would do things in order to not make parents feel bad


Then I had more kids and realized there is a huge spectrum of ability and doing things remarkably early (or remarkably late) really doesn't matter in the end as long as their individual needs are being met. They are all amazing to their adoring parents!
post #46 of 51
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Originally Posted by breezyleigh View Post
How normal is it for a 9 month old to be able to be able to identify pictures of things and point to them? Example: The first time I tried it, I told her to "point to the kitty," in the book, When You Give a Cat a Cupcake, to which she very blatantly pointed (held the page down and pointed) to the cat on several pages. This morning she identified a zipper, Curious George, a dog, and another different cat.
I have no idea how normal this is but thanks for the idea - I tried this with my 9 mo and she can totally do it. She pointed to a cat, a dog, etc. (Well, she doesn't really have the fine motor coordination to point - she kind of whacked the pictures but she definitely had the right spots.) Super cute!

We are going to have to stop talking about her like she can't understand us, heh.
post #47 of 51
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Originally Posted by mambera View Post
I have no idea how normal this is but thanks for the idea - I tried this with my 9 mo and she can totally do it. She pointed to a cat, a dog, etc. (Well, she doesn't really have the fine motor coordination to point - she kind of whacked the pictures but she definitely had the right spots.) Super cute!

We are going to have to stop talking about her like she can't understand us, heh.
Yes! You definitely are And, no problem with the idea. As far as the fine motor goes...where your DD doesn't have the fine motor, mine doesn't have the gross...maybe we can have them teach one another
post #48 of 51
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Well, been through all the EI testing. At 10 months, 5 days old, adjusted for the premature birth to be 9.5 months, her only delay was 2% in locomotive skills. Her fine motor was at 11 months, showing some adaptive skills at 12 months, so in some of those skills, she was 2.5 months ahead and we're working on the locomotives, of which she has been excelling at quickly since then.

The language was definitely her strong point. She displayed a couple of skills even in the 15-24 month range and could perform most of the skills in the 13-18 month range, to which as she displayed during our meeting, today, she pretty much finished out that category, minus one skill and the only skill she has left in the 15-24 month category, now, is the 50 word vocabulary range. She's about half that, now, and stubborn as heck trying to get her to say them. She says different things when it pleases her to do so. Even with the gross motor, her delay, the lady said, is looking to mainly be caused simply by the little one's choice--she has the strength, but just plain doesn't want to do it, yet, which is fine.

Interesting evaluation, honestly. I was told that they hadn't seen an evaluation that had 0% across the board with only a 2% delay in one area. Proud of the little bugger.
post #49 of 51
Remember for normal there's always a spectrum, and I think this would fall on the more advanced side. Both my kids pointed early, and DS2 pointed massively early. I remember at his 9 month WBV having DS1 read to him and him pointing out animals in the book and the ped being impressed. I also think children understand so much more than what they are given credit for. your little one sounds like she's definately happy reading though, I would keep it up!
post #50 of 51
Hmmm. I haven't read all the responses, and I guess the more of these threads I read I am beginning to accept that my children are "ahead" a good deal. I just thought they were normal. .

Dd1 could point to pictures in a book by about 5 months. Ds was a little older because he couldn't be bothered to sit still, but I was not surpised when at 7 months when he was telling us the colors in his color book. Dd2 was about 6 months when she started pointing (in books and to objects IRL) to ask "what's that?" She was about 8 months when she would point to things in a book when asked.

I often get funny looks when I tell stories to people, and for the longest time, I didn't know why. Now, it is frustrating that I can't be excited with what they have learned, and feel like I have to "prove it". I don't know that that feeling will ever pass. Mostly, I just don't talk about much anymore.

Which is sad. I need encouragement and advice and help, too. Ya' know?

Welcome to this board.
post #51 of 51
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Originally Posted by Just1More View Post
I often get funny looks when I tell stories to people, and for the longest time, I didn't know why. Now, it is frustrating that I can't be excited with what they have learned, and feel like I have to "prove it". I don't know that that feeling will ever pass. Mostly, I just don't talk about much anymore.

Which is sad. I need encouragement and advice and help, too. Ya' know?

Welcome to this board.
Thank you. And I suppose I knew it was somewhat ahead, at least, being in the field I am in. However, I know what you mean, completely, about not wanting to talk about much and feeling like you have to "prove it." Proving it doesn't do any good, I've found, though. I simply shared the video of her pointing to what I asked her to point to at about the same age as yours, because I was so proud of her...that mother's pride, you know? Unfortunately my worst advocate was present when I was showing it to someone else...the one who just has nothing but negative things to say. Now all I get from her friends at our job are sarcastic comments. I honestly have come to just simply ignore them because I'm not going to let them ruin the pride I have in my DD.

The thing I'm running into, now, is that I would like to enroll her in Montessori school next year, but I'm not sure I will be able to afford it, being a single mother with a half-time job, who's also paying a lawyer for family court. I will, most likely, if I have a full-time job by then, since it's more than a year off, but if I don't, I will have the available time, anyway, to teach her myself. I've apparently done right with the social skills, so far, so I'm not too worried about her lagging in those. I get her around other children and adults as much as possible, which is probably over-responsive to the isolated situation her father had us in. Hopefully I won't have her so social she ignores school!

There are just so many possibilities and I'm excited for the journey of seeing how this little monster will grow. Anyway, she's "OOOOOOOOOHing" about something she is finding amusing, so time to see what we're exploring next. Thanks for the welcome.
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