yah.. been there..
and amazingly enough it had short life..
I just asked my LO what does NEVER means.. and she said..
I don't know :-)
althouhg she is very smart and she know how to use the NEVER word correctly she does not have concept of NEVER as they are really
not that long on this Earth to really understand concept of NEVER.
the same is with FOREVER...
how a little 4 year old really can have this concept?...
NEVER Is really a long time when you think of it :-)..
and that is I think why we have those problems with them..
we ask them to "NEVER do That!" and they promise promptly
and then five minutes later never is over :-)..
so gently ask her what does NEVer word mean and you might
be surpised with the answer you get..
I got it a lot here.. my smarty pants will pick up some smarty pants
sentences and phrases beyond her age and she can amazingly
use it in the right context without actually understanding
the particular meaning of the words.. and this is as much cracking up
as impressive but then again.. don't fall into the trap
that they actually mean what they say at this age anyways :-)
on the same note.. when my LO made statements that she
will never do something..
I usually say kindly Okay...
and it is funny how short lived those statements are if you don't fight them
but if you want to have a more serious parenting experience you can take her for a trip...
when my daugher once said she will never sleep again..
I simply smiled and said .. okay.. and then I added..
so.. you can play all night and we all will go to sleep okay
and then wake us up in the morning when you will be going to
sleep and we all will be waking up to have fun, but then you
will have to sleep okay? .. and of course when you will be up
alone all night in the whole house so quiet you can do some
house work for us okay?
make sure you won't wake us up ..
but seriously.. if you want you can really take it on serious level
and go like:
okay so let's see how it would work.. so you are saying you will never
sleep again.. so .. you know that we humans sleep because we
need to rest and be strong next day right?..
so just think about this.. all kids will go to sleep but you and tomorrow
they will all wake up strong and full of energy to play but you will
have to play tomorrow without any sleep and you will fall asleep
in the middle of play and you will loose all the fun.. etc..
you got the drift ...
I figured out that this is one of those moments when you don't have
to struggle with them and it is something that levels out quickly if taken with
humor. of course no sarcasm.. just friendly loving cring humor,
we usually have this kind of conversation when my LO sits on my lap and slgihtly is cuddling and she is not facing me as this gives them more
comfort and is less confrontational by nature.. and lots of warmth, love
and hugs to follow and of course big kiss.. and release :-)