Given the shape it sounds like she is in, age of the child, and the fact that the child is not close to her, I'd say no.
And that's given that my children, then 17-19 months and almost-4 were around my dad in the weeks before he passed. They were NOT around at the *very* end, when he was back in the hospital, covered in tubes, and stopped speaking. They DID attend the funeral, including the viewing.
The difference is, this is a person they saw almost every day of their lives from the day they were born, and DS almost4 knew he was sick. We talked about it a lot. He WANTED to see him, and my dad would just light up when DS came. (not that he didn't love dd too but ds would go to him and chatter and stuff)
AND my then 22 month old DD and 3 week old DS visited my grandmother in intensive care the day before she passed. I did *not* take DS1--then just turned 4, in part because I had other childcare, but I also felt a full day at the hospital was just too long to expect him to 'behave' plus I had 2 babies so couldn't focus as much on him.
She was totally lucid. The only thing she had on her tube-wise was oxygen. (she passed from a heart attack the next day, unexpected, they were discussing what room they were going to take her to out of ICU!)
And again, this was a person they saw regularly, knew who she was.
All 3 kids did attend the funeral and viewing, though we spent most of the viewing time in the 'lobby'--a room with a couch to nurse DS2.
The kids did NOT attend the funeral or viewing of my mom's cousin (a relative I always referred to as "uncle" because of how close they were anyway) when I drove her to it. (6 hours away) We found an *awesome* park to go to instead.
They had no clue who this person was, he didn't know who most people were for well---most, if not all, of my children's lifetimes.
And that's given that my children, then 17-19 months and almost-4 were around my dad in the weeks before he passed. They were NOT around at the *very* end, when he was back in the hospital, covered in tubes, and stopped speaking. They DID attend the funeral, including the viewing.
The difference is, this is a person they saw almost every day of their lives from the day they were born, and DS almost4 knew he was sick. We talked about it a lot. He WANTED to see him, and my dad would just light up when DS came. (not that he didn't love dd too but ds would go to him and chatter and stuff)
AND my then 22 month old DD and 3 week old DS visited my grandmother in intensive care the day before she passed. I did *not* take DS1--then just turned 4, in part because I had other childcare, but I also felt a full day at the hospital was just too long to expect him to 'behave' plus I had 2 babies so couldn't focus as much on him.
She was totally lucid. The only thing she had on her tube-wise was oxygen. (she passed from a heart attack the next day, unexpected, they were discussing what room they were going to take her to out of ICU!)
And again, this was a person they saw regularly, knew who she was.
All 3 kids did attend the funeral and viewing, though we spent most of the viewing time in the 'lobby'--a room with a couch to nurse DS2.
The kids did NOT attend the funeral or viewing of my mom's cousin (a relative I always referred to as "uncle" because of how close they were anyway) when I drove her to it. (6 hours away) We found an *awesome* park to go to instead.
They had no clue who this person was, he didn't know who most people were for well---most, if not all, of my children's lifetimes.
