ECing a Second Child

[boigrrrlwonder]

Any tips on ECing a second child? I'm finding it a lot harder than ECing my first.

[cc_mama]

EC'ing my second. I thought we'd start right from birth but we ended up waiting until he was 9 days old. I mostly just offer at diaper changes and when he wakes up - he'll be a month old tomorrow. I didn't EC my dd until she was 10 weeks and she was on a 'schedule' especially for poos. How old is your lo? I think anytime you are EC'ing and finding it difficult you should probably back off a bit. Would just offering at diaper changes help? Is it you feeling stressed about EC'ing or is the lo 'resisting'?

[kcparker]

Keep it mellow and low-key, and make sure it isn't interfering with other aspects of family life, even if it means missing and peeing in a diaper sometimes.

I hate having to decide - do we interrupt the book in the middle of the story because I KNOW DS2 needs to pee, or do we finish the book and change a wet diaper? Is DS1's need for attention and cuddle time less important than catching pees?

My tip would be - if you know LO2 needs to potty and you can't meet that need, just tell the baby you know he/she needs to potty, but you can't help them at this moment. You will do it as soon as you can, but if you need to pee and can't wait, it's okay to go in the diaper. I also try to acknowledge to DS1 that I realize sometimes it's hard for him to be patient when DS2 takes a long time (especially with waves of poop!), and I tell him about how we did this with him as a babe. I have also found that "potty posse" works well - sometimes we ALL go into the bathroom and don't emerge for 1/2 an hour. My husband was not really joking when he commented that in most households, the kitchen is the center of activity, but for us, it's the bathroom.