Originally Posted by KBinSATX
Oops just saw the breastfeeding question.
In part we didn't try earlier because I didn't want to chance losing my supply and having to put DS on formula. My supply did drop at around 4 months but he kept going anyway.
It was NOT always fun but I was glad he was still nursing by the time he was 2.
In fact he still wants to nurse...
Yeah, this was my true concern about conceiving before 3-4yrs. I am a big believer in "term nursing" and would hate to lose my supply and/or for DD to lose her latch early. We put 1yr down as the minimum to avoid formula b/c we knew she loves solids. But she's at 16 months right now and still nurses several times during the day and 2 times at night with a big morning session. *crossing fingers* I took a gamble b/c my mom nursed through her pregnancies and lost the latch on only two kids I think.
If DD hadn't been so open about solid foods, we probably would have started TTA.
Originally Posted by Tigerchild
Hmmm, didn't see your question. I don't see how a question would be offensive. An accusation, maybe. It is a very very common ASSumption in some AP circles (and I have seen it asserted here over the years too, though it gets halted pretty quickly since there's quite a lot of women who don't have their cycles altered more than a blip by exclusive nursing)--and hooooboy sometimes there is absolutely no question that you are being judged by someone else's mistaken or stereotypical information! You also read about it a lot in breastfeeding lit, ect, so I can understand why some people might jump to conclusions.
I just had to deal with a lot of vocal people. It's a fine line to walk in forming a retort though. For many people they WILL have a nice vacation from ovulation and menstruation as long as they keep up a certain level of nursing. You don't want to say that they won't. But I know when I was going through this (my kids are 8 and almost 7s now), it was really hard to find information and shared experiences about what it was like nursing through your period (my DD shared my hormonal acne during my PMSing when she was nursing, my babies were fussy during PMS and I didnt' realize until my DD told me the milk tasted funny and gave her more farts that perhaps it was hormonal on my part), comparing notes about when milk reduction took place, ect--but I think perhaps people were afraid to talk about it for fear of the "OMG you didn't do it right!!" reaction. I hope that there are more folks breastfeeding through closely spaced pregnancies, and perhaps it was just my area, but there was a distinct down-looking on people who had kids closer than 2-3 years apart because "nature" of course would protect a breastfeeding mom who was doing it "enough" so if that didn't happen for you...well, you must be one of those misguided pacifier people.
This is all so true. DD never had a paci, I nursed on demand, we all sleep in a family bed, etc. But her sleep cycles were long enough to make it happen (or it's my genes haha).
I think though that a lot of suspicion exists surrounding eco bfing/LAM b/c the "guidelines" are completely foreign in our mainstream culture. Most people responded as if I was abusing DD when they learned she didn't have a pacifier. The look of horror on their face was priceless lol.
Originally Posted by Smokering
Eugh. Every time Mum
met a friend of hers after DH and I got married, the friend would open the conversation by demanding "Are they pregnant yet? Why not?" We actually conceived DD about six months after we got married - hardly dawdling by most people's standards - but she clearly found the whole thing suspicious and sinister. And I'd only ever met this woman once.
My mom did this to me! Drove me crazy! Everytime I called, she would say "OMG OMG you're pregnant aren't you! This is why you're calling!" Or if we dropped by their house, she'd meet me at the door, "Where's the test???!!!"
I think a lot of people were betting on pre-marital pregnancy, too, judging by the comments and grapevine.