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Counseling recommendations / resources?

post #1 of 8
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We are finally in a place where we can provide counseling for DSD, it's mostly on healthy relationships, family, healthy self-image, finding passions, etc.

Anyway, I'd love to go by recommendation, or at least see some reviews before we pick a counselor. Is there a website that compares this type of service providers?

Also, did you try it with your kid? did it help? work?

any insight is greatly appreciated!
post #2 of 8
Hmmm. What are her thoughts on this? Do you think she might do better with a mentoring/youth org type thing? I haven't been thrilled with any of the family counseling/youth counseling that we've received and unless she's open to it (basically she's the one who wants it) I think it might be like flushing money down the toilet. It might be better to allow her to explore a couple of ideas for what might be her passion so she can see what really inspires her.
post #3 of 8
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She is definitely open to it, but I think it's important to find a good fit, and I'm not sure how to go about finding that perfect fit, yk? She used to see a counselor at school, and liked it. I don't doubt that she'll go in to her first session happy it's available.

At the same time, she is not the kind that wants to get involved into group things, which is kind of part of the problem, she never really found something she wanted to stick with. She feels kind of lost on that front. We always told her she is welcome to pick anything, and we'd support her, but nothing seem to grab her interest long enough.

I think if we could address some of the confidence and people skills, and relating to others - it would help her out.
post #4 of 8
How about a counselor who's also a life coach...or vice versa?
post #5 of 8
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Originally Posted by PoppyMama View Post
How about a counselor who's also a life coach...or vice versa?
that sounds like a great idea, how do I go about finding one?
post #6 of 8
I googled 'youth life coaching' for my area and came up with several leads. I guess this is a growing area. I wonder if any of the college entrance counselors might have some recommendations and then check with the women's groups and a fewer youth orgs and check your list for repeat names. Let me know how it goes this seems like a good idea.
post #7 of 8
your siggy says she's 17? At that age I'd get her involved in finding the counselor. She may have preferences that narrow down the field- perhaps she prefers one gender over the other, or an older or younger counselor etc. I will say at that age my mother thought she knew my preferences, and she was way off, i ended up with a counselor I could barely talk too. for me, gender was huge and my mother picked the wrong one, and clearly stated she thought it was my preference. I was too timid to correct her.

She may also know friends who are in counseling and may feel comfortable enough to get a recommendation from them. Or, if the old school counselor is available she could ask for a recommendation from her.

If its not a big inconvenience, perhaps you could find a few counselors, and let her pick from them. Some folks will even interview a few and then pick the one they feel most comfortable with- sort of "therapist shopping" if you will. Fit is really an individual thing- someone can come highly recommended, but still not be the right "fit" for you. It wouldn't hurt to try a few and pick one. Or to pick one, but tell her if she's uncomfortable you can try another.

You might also ask what she thinks would make a good counselor for her- even if it seems silly. For instance, I tend to do better with people who have pets- yes, it sounds silly, but it makes me more comfortable. She might have some "good" ideas too- perhaps someone who has experience with teens, or someone with a flexible policy on out of session contact (some therapists will not take phone calls beyond scheduling issues, others allow phone calls if necessary). Have her make a list, then ask about the items on her list when you call therapists. She can compare answers from several and get a better idea of who she might want to see.
post #8 of 8
Thread Starter 
She is/will definitely be involved in the process. Our goal is to come up with some options by the end of next week.

Thank you everyone for your input. It's much appreciated.
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