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post #21 of 61
watching this cuz I will be in the same boat. if they go looking for something, they will find it. as you said, they will want to induce you based on dates ALONE! but sure, they'll find low amniotic fluid or hbp to help ice their cake. AND if you go AMA and leave (after the NST) they will for sure call social services on you and force you into a c-section especially since you are already on their radar w/ that oh so nice phone call from your sister.

I think it's important for you to take a long bath, meditate, get IN TUNED w/ your baby. you will know if there is a problem. and even if you don't interventions will probably not change the outcome (for the positive anyway).

Second advice of others who said to unplug your phone and have some great conversations w/ hubby ONLY.

I will be in this exact same situation in 15 weeks. and I'll be posting here asking for support.
post #22 of 61
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And a question- are you sure of your dates? Not just your LMP but when you ovulated? I ask because if you base your EDD on your LMP you could be way off...and I know with my MW's they really wanted to take my LMP due date and use that but it would have been 7!!! days early because I didn't ovulate until cycle day 21. I take every day I can get because I tend to go late with my babes as well. Sorry if this doesn't pertain.

I hope that you have a beautiful birth and I will be thinking of you~~ sending out labour vibes your way~~. Big hugs!
Oh that's a good point...I assumed conception dates...
post #23 of 61
what the heck i the midwife doing talking about your confidential information with your sister? i believe that is an ethics violation! i would def. take this up with the midwife.

aside from that, i'm glad you are feeling peace about it all.
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I think you know the answer to your questions, hon. I hope you are holding your babe soon

And to the other posters asking about her dates: she was charting to TTC for a while before she got pregnant. She is absolutely certain of her conception date
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I'd go for the NST. If everything is fine, you'll be much calmer. And if everything is not fine, you'll know what's going on and can make decisions with good information.

I hope that everything's fine, and that you get to meet your baby soon.
post #28 of 61
No one can tell you what to do. If you feel in your gut that your babe is in danger then you should absolutely get help. But it sounds to me like your prenatal care has made you doubt your body and it's ability to birth, as it often does. I have seen many non-emergency transfers from women who get prenatal care but want to UC. One thing I do KNOW, though, is that you can't labor effectively if you are scared and you have to find a way to get comfortable whether that is re-centering on your UC and getting your faith back or going to the hospital. I don't think you are listening to your body or your baby, though, fear has clouded that and you can't see past the things these other people have told you. I would encourage you to try to connect with your baby and just shut this other stuff out for a while and see what you really need to do. Your body will tell you if you listen
post #29 of 61
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I'd go for the NST. If everything is fine, you'll be much calmer. And if everything is not fine, you'll know what's going on and can make decisions with good information.

I hope that everything's fine, and that you get to meet your baby soon.
If she walks into a hospital in labor for a NST they will never let her leave. She will be resigned to a hospital birth at that point no matter what she wants and if she's honest about her contractions they will likely give her pitocin and there goes her chance at even having a natural birth.

You can't just go to the hospital and leave if you want to, they can and will make you stay.
post #30 of 61
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If she walks into a hospital in labor for a NST they will never let her leave. She will be resigned to a hospital birth at that point no matter what she wants and if she's honest about her contractions they will likely give her pitocin and there goes her chance at even having a natural birth.

You can't just go to the hospital and leave if you want to, they can and will make you stay.
Is she in labor, though? I mean, if she was in labor, this would be a whole different ballgame. It sounds to me like she's 42 +5, not in labor, and concerned about what's going on.

IME, it takes a very compelling set of circumstances for a hospital to get it together to go straight from an NST on a woman with her pants on to an induction, etc. It takes some moxie, but it is possible to walk in and then walk out again. NSTs are also available in non-hospital settings, and if the OP would feel more comfortable avoiding the hospital, than a midwife might be able to do this in-office.
post #31 of 61
OP do you have a midwife-office nst option available to you?

In your circumstances, i think I would get an NST. Not at 40 or 41 weeks, but now, I would.

I've been following your posts also by the way, but haven't seen whether you've also been trying some minorly aggressive natural induction measures? Castor oil, accupuncture, breast pump, etc? I didn't see you mention that. I wouldn't personally do these things at 40 weeks but at almost 43 weeks I'd pull out all the stops.

I'm wishing you a beautiful birth, mama. I'm pretty non-interventive myself, but at this point, I think an NST is a reasonable move. I know its hard to go into labor when one is anxious. I hope you find a path you are at peace with.
post #32 of 61
oh my goodness. I just want to offer some hugs and again ask that you connect w/ your baby and hubby and I hope you are in the throws of labor
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I mean, I am in some stage of labor- I guess prodromal or whatever. Last night I had intense painful contractions all night long. The night before contractions all night long (less intense) . Today contractions sporadic. BLoody mucus last 4 days.
So is that early labor? I never felt any braxton hicks or anything before- so it was like- contractions started and then picked up and every day (or more like night) there are more.

Last night I was sure I was finally in labor! and as for fear- yes I have some but I don't think more so than average fears. I am doing my best to not have them. If I had somewhere peaceful to get the nst- where I didn't fear being forced into a hospital birth, I would do it. But in this place I would go they are encouraging induction at past 41 weeks, so they would surely tell me I had to do that.
And aren;t my signs an indication that I am in labor, at some stage?
And as for my body, when I tune in- if there weren't all these fears circling around me I would say I feel just fine. Plenty of energy and also resting a lot. I eat super well and am staying very hydrated. Even sleeping pretty well (when I am not having contractions). Baby's movements feel strong. hear rate is normal and sounds strong.

How do I know how much amniotic fluid is left?! Is there a way to tell?
Lots of cramps and low light contractions again.

Yes, a NST

There is nothing saying you have to stay and be induced. Show up, do the NST, and take it from there. Despite the doom and gloom from some on this thread, the doctors cannot force you to be induced or sectioned.
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at this point I kind of want to do the nst. I just wish there were somewhere to do it without all the additional stuff.
I am so sick of this!!!!
I mean- my bottom line belief is that a body can grow and birth a baby without technology. Yet I do see how in some cases technology helps or even saves a baby. So wouldn't it be ironic if I were on of those small percent of people who actually DID need intevention?
I feel like people in my life are thinking I am trying to hold on to some (ouch- major contraction right now!) higher moral ground or somehting and putting my baby at danger. I do not want to do anything to put my baby at danger!
I just did not want ot be induced.
But is there some point where maybe to be induced is the right thing? but then again- I am having contractions- .such a hard place here. I never wanted this.
I just wanted to have a peaceful homebirth. this is a huge yucky feeling right now. I just want my baby to be born healthy and SOON.

I know how you feel. The way obstetrics is set up in our culture, it's an all or nothing situation. But that doesn't have to be true if you are informed and stay aware of the situation.

I remember dealing with a pain issue during labor (later found out it was related to a sports injury) but the symptoms and level of pain made us suspect abruption. So we went to the hospital and had an ultrasound, VE and they hooked me up to the EFM (although I didn't much care about that lol). At any rate, everything was fine. And I was 4cm dilated. Well we came in there w/ the name of an OB and saying "we were just laboring at home as much as possible." So the doctor actually patted my foot, smiled and said he doubted anything was going to happen. Yeah, we were forcibly discharged haha. (And I was of course prepared to walk out of there unless it was something serious).


Anyways, it can be done. The right look, the right words...and of course being really prepared.
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Here is the chart of the month I conceived- did I somehow miscalculate my due date- I just added 38 weeks past the ovulation date since I ovulated on CD 24
what do you think?
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/index.php

Lots more contractions starting up right now. trying to gear myself up to dtd with dh to try to encourage this thing along but I have to say sex +contractions does not sound so fun.

Can't see that FF, hon--you have to cut and paste the URL for your front page.
post #39 of 61
Katie, If you opt for the NST don't let them do a VE. There is no need for a VE for a routine NST. They will notice the contractions but measuring intensity of contractions is not an exact science. If you are in early or active labor and dilated to a certain amount they will not let you leave. Better that they don't have that information.
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