Need support desperately! - Starting nightweaning tonight...

[rocketgirl96]

OMG! We're starting nightweaning tonight and I have so much anxiety over it, it's not even funny. On the one hand, I'm soooo ready to do it - but on the other hand, I'd really rather not. I have such mixed emotions about it, but I know I have to do it due to infertility issues plus I haven't had a good night's sleep in over 2 years! But I also feel terrible about it - it provides him such comfort. I'm not even weaning him completely! It's just the night time feedings I'm cutting out - I don't even want to know how I'm going to be when I actually wean completely. I'm going to be a wreck. hahaha

Anyway, I could just use support tonight. I will not be sleeping in the same room with him tonight (my husband will be in our bedroom to comfort him) but it's going to be hard on me if he cries a lot or cries for me. even though I know my husband will be there to do all he can, it's going to be really hard.

Thanks,
Christine

[calgal1111]

Christine, I know exactly how you feel we weaned DD at 2, I was ready for it but also sad. Everything will be ok the first few nights will be a little hairy but it will get better and DS will not be alone! Take it slow, Hugs!

[lifeguard]

My thoughts are with you. We nightweaned ds over Christmas & I was SO nervous about it but it went much smoother than I anticipated. I hope the same happens for you.

[rocketgirl96]

Well, the first night is over and it went so smoothly I can't believe it. He only cried a couple of times but was easily soothed back to sleep by my husband. Surely it can't be this easy. Does anyone know if it gets worse the 2nd night?

Thanks,
Christine

[lifeguard]

It didnt' for us. Glad to hear you're off to a good start.

[MiaMama]

We talked to my daughter about night-weaning a lot as we did it. She was 2.5, I was preg, and having a really hard time, I was losing a lot of weight. So it was kind of sudden.

I was amazed at how much she understood when we explained it to her. She would ask to nurse at night, and we reminded her, "not at night, wait until the sun comes up," and we asked her "can we rub your back, or rub your belly?"

She often chose to have daddy scratch her back and I didn't even have to sleep in a different bed. I did have to make sure I wore a shirt to bed, exposed breasts were too big of a temptation. I think that at that age (2+) many kids can understand and adjust better than we think they can.