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[Snapdragon]

thanks

[aramat]

My father-in-law unwittingly bumbled into the room to talk to my husband while I was in active labor, naked, sitting on the toilet with the door open, taking a sh*t... I yelled and he left.

[mtnmoonmama]

I did not tell anyone when I went into labor (with my first - when none of my family trusted homebirth...). In fact, my mom called when I was full on in the midst of things and my dh just said "she's busy right now and will call you back later". I knew that everyone would worry and call to check on me and I did NOT want those distractions. My suggestion to you is to turn off your phones! If you think people may come over, have dh to tell them to stay put and he'll update as he can - then turn off the phone.

Easy labor vibes to you, Katie!! Can't wait to be reading your birth story!

[jul511riv]

nak.
agreed. cut the family out...turn off phones...tell them now is not a good time. focus within. all that matters is your peace and focus. meditate. pray.
elv.
xoxo

[stacylsc]

With our last labor that took 59 hours after our water broke we told our families "We'll call YOU...our phones will be off...if YOU have an emergency, please call the hospital and let them know and they can let us know." ...some of them still kept texting, leaving messages etc...we told them that was fine, but that our phones would be off...if something was going on that they needed to know about, we'd contact them...until then they were to follow the "no news is good news" rule. I'm sure they would have liked more updates since it lasted DAYS, but we were exhausted and needed ANY energy we had left to focus on the birth. Just lay out the ground rules...if they truly love you and want the best for you, then they'll love you for doing what is best for you. good luck.

[RedOakMomma]

DDCC

Please, no matter what they do, concetrate on the joy of the baby you're carrying. Trust me...it's not worth it to focus our energy on the negativy of others. If I could go back and change anything about ds3's birth and post-partum period, it would be adjusting my own attitude. It's not my fault that my ILs were so rude and hurtful, but I did allow myself to focus on it too much. I should have brushed them off, left them in their own toxicity, and just snuggled into life with our new baby.