Need hugs and encouragement

[Barefoot~Baker]

I left my husband about 6 weeks ago, and today is the first day that the kids and I have returned to the house after I was granted temporary occupance.

Today has been so emotional. It really dawned on my 6yo dd today that daddy is not going to live with us anymore. She cryed her little heart out while I held her. I've been sobbing all day. Being in this house reminds me of him so much, and of course my mind just keeps reliving the good things.

I had been staying with my parents until today. Today feels like my first real day of being a single mother. I can't believe it. I'm so devastated for myself and my children that our family is broken

[PGTlatte]

I'm sorry.

[pauletoy]

[mazajo]

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I believe that in some situations, a two parent family can be much more broken than a single parent family.

[ArtsyMomma]

You will get through this mama. Being a single mom can be very empowering. Stay strong for your DD.

[momof4peppers]

I've been thinking of you lately and wondering how you're doing.

I'm glad and sad to read your update. Give yourself the time you need to grieve.

[Theia]

{{{HUGS}}}

I am sorry that you and your DD are hurting. You both will get through this and find a really good, happy, safe life on the other side. It does get better. Allow yourselves the grief you feel at this time. Maybe you could do something small as a way to allow you and your DD to express the grief of your loss, and at the end express things you are looking forward to.

[ExOfficia]

My stbx moved out a month ago, and I can honestly say what others have said, it really does get better. And faster than you think.

I think it's really helpful, as far as helping a child cope, to maintain as many of her old routines as possible, lessons, playdates, that sort of thing. And even better if you and your stbx launch into an immediate predictable schedule. I started putting Daddy's days on the kitchen calendar, and my kids do check it when they can't remember when they will see him.

I know it's hard to not feel like there's so much broken and destroyed, but to use bad metaphors, it's out of these crumbles that you will rebuild a new, *happier* life. In the meanwhile, it's totally okay to feel sad- you both need to grieve.

Hugs to you mama, you will feel peace soon, I promise.

[Eaglevoice]

Originally Posted by mazajo

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I believe that in some situations, a two parent family can be much more broken than a single parent family.

exactly what she said.