Processing a difficult VBAC - Page 2

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by nina_yyc

Do I go to the VBAC meeting and share if asked? Or just not go and miss the chance to volunteer for something like outreach to the community? I think that if I do go it would be really hard not to share.

Absolutely you need to share. In searching for answers and experiences while researching for my VBAC, I wanted (and needed) to know ALL the possibilities out there. I wouldn't have wanted to just hear about only the good ones.

I've been forced into a similar situation with my HBAC story. It had some twists and turns that may not be the "perfect" HB, but it was my reality and is just as possible for anyone else. So if people start asking about my HBAC, I'll tell them yes, I transferred (twice) but safety was our first goal, but in the end it worked out well and yes, I had my HBAC.

[Kreeblim]

Originally Posted by mediumcrunch

And add me to the ranks of: "First VBAC was less than ideal .... but followed on by at least one rainbows and butterflies VBAC"

Me too! I didn't realise this was common (though I guess any situation is common when given a big enough pool of mamas )

OP, I kinda feel like women need to hear about all types of VBACs or it's just setting them up for disappointment. I've had two now and my first VBAC had some pretty unpleasant issues, not all of which I was prepared for. It was still better than my C-section, but I did feel a little sad that I didn't get the type of VBAC everyone else seemed to have. I did end up having a nearly perfect birth with my second VBAC, and I realised that I was now telling my WHOLE birth story to people, whereas with my 1st VBAC I would leave many things out. I think I just wanted to "belong" with all the mom's whose stories had inspired me to attempt to VBAC, but really we all belong with them, even if we end up RCS.

[nina_yyc]

Thanks for the encouragement everyone! I went to the meeting and it was a really great experience. Everyone shared birth stories so there were 4 of us with VBAC stories and I think 5 telling the stories of their primary c/s and hopes for their VBAC. Everyone was really honest and funny and there was no judgement at all for not having done 'everything' or not having had the perfect candlelit home birth. I think I am coming to terms with the cirucmstances of my birth and starting to realize that yes my VBAC 'counts.'

[CoconutCutie]

Originally Posted by nina_yyc

Thanks for the encouragement everyone! I went to the meeting and it was a really great experience. Everyone shared birth stories so there were 4 of us with VBAC stories and I think 5 telling the stories of their primary c/s and hopes for their VBAC. Everyone was really honest and funny and there was no judgement at all for not having done 'everything' or not having had the perfect candlelit home birth. I think I am coming to terms with the cirucmstances of my birth and starting to realize that yes my VBAC 'counts.'

Thats great to hear!! Im happy your able to have some help with coming to terms about your VBAC. Like you said it counts!!

[wombatclay]

Yay!

[ShwarmaQueen]

Awesome!