Twins as 3rd and 4th children - Page 2

[Intertwined]

Originally Posted by babyproject

I know that I will love both of my babies and won't be able to imagine my life without them. I guess I am just mourning the loss of the life that I had pictured for my family.

This. Exactly. If I had not had the twins my youngest would be nearly 3.5 and probably in MDO several times a week and I'd be shipping my oldest three off to Montessori and be half way through my apprenticeship/midwifery school now.

Wow, hadn't thought about that for a bit. I'd only have one at home during the day and I'd be pursuing MY deams rather than raising MORE babies. Sigh. Now I pretty much have to homeschool because we can't afford private school for six and it will be years and years before I'm able to start my career in midwifery. Thank god I have my photography as an outlet!

I think I'd better go love on my sweet babies for a few minutes.

[DiannaK]

no advice for you what so ever, but just a hug.

My children are ---
15 yo girl
almost 4 yo girl
my twin boys will be 2 in May

I struggle DAILY with mother guilt, trying to find enough time for myself, my husband, working part time, and spending time with each of my children. I feel like I'm juggling all these plates,and at any moment, they will all come crashing down.

Something I've gotten very skilled at, since the boys were born, is learning how to say NO, and accepting help when it is offered. Plus, I don't make any bones about how busy I am at home. I just tell people, "No, I can't help you with that, I'm too busy at home." If they want to come over and help, great.

Hang in there. I keep telling myself it will get easier! Someday ......

[Intertwined]

I'm shooting for five and up Dianna. All people using the toilet, wiping themselves, buckling their own car seats and not nearly as likely to dash in front of traffic.

Of course, by then my oldest will be entering puberty.....

[babyproject]

Originally Posted by Intertwined

I'm shooting for five and up Dianna. All people using the toilet, wiping themselves, buckling their own car seats and not nearly as likely to dash in front of traffic.

Of course, by then my oldest will be entering puberty.....

I don't know. The further into their teens that my kids get, the more I think I would take toddlers over teens any day. They cry and whine every bit as much as my toddler. I don't have to wipe them, but I do have to keep track of all of their homework and school activities. They aren't going to dash in front of traffic, but they start to drive and become part of the traffic. That is even more terrifying.

[Intertwined]

Originally Posted by babyproject

I don't know. The further into their teens that my kids get, the more I think I would take toddlers over teens any day. They cry and whine every bit as much as my toddler. I don't have to wipe them, but I do have to keep track of all of their homework and school activities. They aren't going to dash in front of traffic, but they start to drive and become part of the traffic. That is even more terrifying.

All totally true things, for sure. I'd probably be on that same train of thought except I have SO many little ones! My youngest four are all five and under. It's completely exhausting some day. I'm praying hard for mellow teens.