Do You Find???

[mom2knj]

That people make snide remarks about your childs PLing & EC? OK let me digress. We have been PLing for 3 weeks now, I had never planned to EC (not that I dont believe in it just wasnt for us) but My DD was 1 on 2/8/10. She began telling me poop, then would proceed to poop in her diaper, this happened 5 times in 4 days, so I decided to go out and get a potty and see what would happen with it. So she has progressed now to being 90% daytime dry and dry for the last 4 nights. BUT, I have people saying to me all the time, well she isnt potty learning you are just ECing, anyone can do that. Or they will down talk her progress and I have a hard time explaining to them that even if she was 2 I would have to do the same things I do now to help her learn the potty. I know we are using some EC techniques, such as in watching for potty cues but It is just so frustrating that they dont realize that she does "know" and it isnt just me catching a poo or pee by chance, kwim?

[hrsmom]

I think it (at least partially) comes from the fact that people don't generally know that babies are aware of their elimination needs, and really prefer not to soil their clothing, from birth.

My dd had more poop catches than poop misses from birth, but then around 10 months started pooping in her pants. I remember being pretty excited about a poop catch when she was about 15 months old. I mentioned it to my dad, and he said, "It's a bit early, but, OK!" Which was weird because I thought he knew we were doing EC. I had mentioned it to my uncle, I guess not my dad. (The only people I told at first anyway were my mom and step-dad, since they were going to be around her a lot. Good thing, too, because one time she peed on my step-dad and he just casually got up and went out to the car and changed his pants! Good thing he had a change of clothes!) But I digress!!!!!.......

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by mom2knj

That people make snide remarks about your childs PLing & EC? OK let me digress. We have been PLing for 3 weeks now, I had never planned to EC (not that I dont believe in it just wasnt for us) but My DD was 1 on 2/8/10. She began telling me poop, then would proceed to poop in her diaper, this happened 5 times in 4 days, so I decided to go out and get a potty and see what would happen with it. So she has progressed now to being 90% daytime dry and dry for the last 4 nights. BUT, I have people saying to me all the time, well she isnt potty learning you are just ECing, anyone can do that. Or they will down talk her progress and I have a hard time explaining to them that even if she was 2 I would have to do the same things I do now to help her learn the potty. I know we are using some EC techniques, such as in watching for potty cues but It is just so frustrating that they dont realize that she does "know" and it isnt just me catching a poo or pee by chance, kwim?

People are so weird. I would just reply "Well, I don't really care what you call it--I'm just glad to be done changing poopy diapers. And I'm pretty psyched that she's already telling me when she needs to go." and move on. You don't need their approval for what you're doing, you know? Sometimes it's hard not to care what people think, but just blow them off. Their opinion of her skills doesn't really matter, right? You can be proud of her without their praise. They'll see her progress eventually. It sounds like she's really picking it up young! That's great! And ec or potty learning, it's great that you're open enough to her that you're supporting her in it.

[zoebird]

i really don't know what you mean.

i mean, does it matter if someone else calls it ECing vs PLing? does it matter if it is one or the other?

i think that you can rest in the knowledge that you are responding to your child's desires and needs, and everyone else can just go to h-e-double-hockey-sticks.

and no, no one gives me any guff about ECing or whatever.

[theboysmama]

i agree with zoebird. I don't think it matters what people call it.
I didn't ec my older boys but I still was very in tune to their needs, followed their lead, and gently taught them how to use the potty. (they were both about 2) I find that I use similar techniques when toileting dd even though with her I started at birth. She can communicate to me (doesn't always) that she needs to go though facial expressions, fussing, noises, etc. I think kids do know what is going on (even from birth).
It doesn't matter what other people think or say as long as you know you are doing what is right for you and your dd.

[dogretro]

Eh, they're just jealous. If anyone can do it, why aren't they?

[mom2knj]

Thanks all, no it doesnt really matter what it is called, it can just be really annoying when people down talk it..... It will not stop me from ecing/pling at all because I feel this is where she wants to be and what is best for her as well.. Thanks again for all your support!

[sapphire_chan]

Anyone can have a 12 month old telling them before they need to poop? I was when my 16 month old started that.

I think that sort of child-led ECing is the easiest way to go. I remember one mama on here (before I was even pregnant) had her 15 month old start opening up the toilet lid before pooping and I thought "wow, now *there's* an easy signal to catch".