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post #41 of 54
Worms, zombies, small dogs, and white dogs. No joke. I totally have panic attacks near any of them. Except zombies, obviously. I watched Night of the Living Dead as a young child and still can't see or watch anything zombie related without getting freaked out and having nightmares for months. I had ppd after dd#1 and used to stay up worried they'd crawl up from my floor boards and I'd plan my escape.
post #42 of 54
Spiders although I am getting better with this. I no longer freeze being unable to stop looking for fear it will come after me. I scream when I see them and I swear they come looking for me. I often see them in my sleep. Now I don't care for most bugs, but spiders totally freak me out and I am always on the look out for them. In fact, I always look at my dishes when I take them out of the cupboard because I am certain there is going to be a big spider lurking in them one of these days. Never have found one, but it could happen!
post #43 of 54
I have bad phobias of bees and driving.
post #44 of 54
Spiders, but I am getting better.
post #45 of 54
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Originally Posted by kittywitty View Post
Worms, zombies, small dogs, and white dogs. No joke. I totally have panic attacks near any of them. Except zombies, obviously. I watched Night of the Living Dead as a young child and still can't see or watch anything zombie related without getting freaked out and having nightmares for months. I had ppd after dd#1 and used to stay up worried they'd crawl up from my floor boards and I'd plan my escape.
Ohgawd I forgot, I'm terrified of zombies!
post #46 of 54
Spiders. I'm getting accidental therapy, through desensitization, though. DD1 is homelearning, and her single biggest fascination in life is spiders. So, I spend quite a lot of time reading lavishly illustrated books about spiders...their life cycles, mating habits, eating habits (ugh), etc. I honestly can't tell if I'm better or worse than I used to be!

Social phobia. I'm managing to force myself through this a little, but...I have a the public speaking thing in spades, and I'm petrified of meeting strangers or mixing at a party with people I don't know. I'm a weird hybrid of honestly not giving a crap what people think of me, and being petrified of making a fool of myself. I don't know why. Attending any kind of class or group (eg. my choir, a homelearning meetup, etc.) for the first time is incredibly difficult.

I'm mildly afraid of fire, but not quite to the point of it being a phobia.

I don't know if I'd call it a true phobia, but I've definitely developed a severe aversion to medical care of all kinds. It does affect my life, but I can overcome it if I feel the need to, so...?

I'm sure there are others, but those are the big ones.


ETA: Ugh. The talk of spiders reminds me that it's almost time for the "paratroopers". I wonder if they'll come back this year. They had me afraid to come downstairs last year.
post #47 of 54
Flying. I was totally incapable of getting into an airplane for 8 years and now I again have to fly quite a lot. The part which is most difficult for me is not takeoff or landing, but cruise. I'm certain the plane will be shattered by overspeed or hit by another plane while we're cruising at 30 thousand feet.

I've never had anything happen while flying and I've been on some 35 flights, so the fear has no base in real-life experience. On the other hand, when someone tells me 'plane crashes are rare, nobody knows anyone who has been in a crash' I have to correct them, since a couple I knew died on Air France 447 and a friend of mine barely survived crash a few years ago - after 3.5 years, she is still going through all kinds of therapies which hopefully can get her to walk again some day.

I have to take 2 eight-hour plane trips in May and I'm already losing sleep over it.
post #48 of 54
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Originally Posted by InMediasRes View Post
Oh geez. You are totally not alone, mamas.

I am trypanophobic (fear of hypodermic needles). More specifically, I am vaso-vagal trypanophobic, which means that I experience a sharp rise in blood pressure before contact, followed by a sharp drop in blood pressure after insertion. I usually get lightheaded and dizzy, sweaty, panicked, feeling like I need to run away.

It causes very real problems for me in that I can't make rational decisions about my medical care. I think my first labor got so horrifically stalled out because they made me (I also have a fear of authority) get an IV and blood draw. I procrastinate on routine tests as long as possible. In an emergency situation, I would have a hard time deciding to get adequate care if needles were involved.

I still have phantom pain from a traumatic blood draw.

I have also been this way as long as I can remember. I get dizzy just thinking about needles. Nurses and doctors don't get it. They think it's about the pain, but it's not. I broke my arm twice and didn't cry. I had two babies with hours and hours of labor and no pain medication. I'm not afraid of pain. But the idea of that foreign thing being in my body makes me totally crazy.

The funny thing is that, when my kids need anything done with needles, mama bear totally takes over and it's like I don't have the phobia at all. I can be totally calm and even watch when it comes to my kids. It's so totally bizarre.

I wonder how much is genetic predisposition to these things and how much is learned. No one in my family has phobias, but I am also prone to anxiety, and I know that phobias are anxiety related. I was told as a child that I was "just being a wuss" that "it doesn't really hurt" and when my parents took me for vaxes, they never warned me that that's where we were going. We would just show up at a doctor and the lady would say "it's just like a little bee sting". Uh huh. I'd rather have ten babies in a row than have my blood drawn
I have this.
I did not know it had a name.

And no, people don't get it. Nurses and doctors most of all. Even midwives.
I cannot get a hep lock "just in case". Don't they understand? They may as well be beating me over the head with a bat while I'm trying to labour. It cannot happen. If I ever require a c-section, I will have to be sedated and put out because I would be hysterical for the spinal/IV. Yes, I'd miss the birth of my own child and make my partner miss it too (can't be in the OR if mom under general) so that I could avoid needles in my veins.
post #49 of 54
I absolutely hate calling people I sort of know. I can call my close friends and family without any problem and I can make business calls with the best of them, but calling someone I don't know well makes me sick to my stomach.

I also am afraid of doctors not believing me.

But, I am the queen of public speaking.
post #50 of 54
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Ohgawd I forgot, I'm terrified of zombies!
Naw, zombies isn't a phobia. A phobia is defined as "a persistent, irrational fear". Zombies and raptors are both extremely legitimate fears, because zombies and raptors are FREAKING SCARY. You're a fool if you don't fear them, I say. What happens to the guy who scoffs at zombies? He gets his brains eaten out of his head, is what happens. Don't believe raptors still exist? That's what they want you to think. The attack comes from the left.

And that's all I have to say on the subject.
post #51 of 54
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Originally Posted by Smokering View Post
Naw, zombies isn't a phobia. A phobia is defined as "a persistent, irrational fear". Zombies and raptors are both extremely legitimate fears, because zombies and raptors are FREAKING SCARY. You're a fool if you don't fear them, I say. What happens to the guy who scoffs at zombies? He gets his brains eaten out of his head, is what happens. Don't believe raptors still exist? That's what they want you to think. The attack comes from the left.

And that's all I have to say on the subject.
post #52 of 54
Not a Mama, so I didn't answer earlier. But here are mine:

1. Escalators. Ugh. I saw a TV show once when I was a child and this kid got their hood somehow caught in one and they died. I have been scared of them ever since. I get lightheaded just seeing one. My MIL told me about a child in their family who was killed on a moving sidewalk. I have never seen one of those before, but I would probably be scared of those too!

2. Broken glass. I will spare you the story behind it. But if someone breaks a glass in my presence, I faint.
post #53 of 54
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Originally Posted by TEAK's Mom View Post
I absolutely hate calling people I sort of know. I can call my close friends and family without any problem and I can make business calls with the best of them, but calling someone I don't know well makes me sick to my stomach.
I'm a bit like this, as well...but it's more calling businesses, for my own personal use, that triggers it. I get a bit freaked calling for pizza, for instance - especially the first time at a new place.

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I also am afraid of doctors not believing me.
I'm more afraid of not believing doctors.
post #54 of 54
I am not sure if this is a phobia or just a weird quirk I have.

But I have the worst aversion to ordering my own food, especially at fast food places..

don't take offense to this if you have an accent. But I always have this huge fear that the person who takes my order might not understand me or might have a thick accent and question me over and over again.. silly huh?

I usually ask dh to order for me, if I am out with family, I will actually pretend I have to go to the bathroom, then tell someone what I want and have them order for me.

Part of it is, that I am super quiet at talking. I talk very quietly and never speak loud so I don't want the person asking me to repeat myself over and over.


Ok now I feel silly
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