The Fabulous ONE thread, March 14th-19th - Page 3

[Tulpen88]

CLH - Have fun!

Kingsdaughter - Yeah, I wouldn't worry too much about a 4dpo temp drop either. It could be anything. Hopefully it'll jump up nice and high tomorrow!

tigerlily - Sorry about AF. It's great that the b6 and maca have helped your cycle so much though!

Aly - Grrr, sorry about AF. GL this cycle!

Finnegans - I saw your posts about the OPKs. That is just nuts. Can you contact the place where you bought the cheapies and ask for a refund?!

As for alone time, we don't cosleep, so that makes it pretty easy for us. We usually have time after DS goes to bed or when he naps. If he's consisently sleeping late enough, we can sometimes have a morning quickie too. If we coslept, IDK how we'd do it. Do your kids stay up until you go to bed, or are they in bed before you? If they're asleep before you guys, could you do it on the couch or something? In the shower? That is tough!

mumma - Lots of baby dust to you! I'm sure your LO wouldn't mind sharing a birth month with you in November. My due date for this cycle would be 12/5, but I'm kind of hoping for a Nov due date. I went late with DS though, so I probably wouldn't be so lucky.

Jennifer - I agree that you probably don't need to worry about progesterone. If you have any concerns, talk to your doctor though. It sucks that this family friend put doubts in your mind.

brichole - Yay for meds that will help! It's so great to have a plan and to feel optimistic about your chances! Have fun!

AFM - I'm pretty sure I'm 2dpo today. Once I confirm with another high temp tomorrow, I can move to Waiting to Know! Woohoo! We had pretty good timing this month, so I feel good about that. The only thing bugging me is that my post-O temps are kind of low so far. I hope they increase some.

[CLH_X3]

Finn – Thanks, I think i will need luck as im only on CD11 and thats early even if i get a + OPK tomorrow ...

Man can be very insensitive!! ... When my OH gets in a ‘Mood’ about anything then he becomes insensitive as well. I just don’t bother listening to him now when he has a strop on.

My OH tryed to do the whole ‘let it happen’ last cycle half way through. At the beginning he wanted me to tell him when i got a + on OPK but then when i did he went ‘you only using me for my sperm’ and its so ‘unromantic’ and it feels like we have to .. Blah blah...
He wanted me to get rid of the CBFM this cycle and not do any OPK at all... as its stressful
So all i did was hide my OPK and i do my CBFM either at work or when he leaves in the morning... so he doesn’t know this cycle (: nothing to stress about then!!

Tulpen – Thanks as well!! ... I think my timing will be pretty good this cycle so FX for you and me (and everyone else)

[karmab]

oh my fm, your dh and my dh must be buddies on DHsofTTCers.com. luckily, he's not quite on to me yet this cycle, but things are about to get real busy, and his schedule i know is tight this week. i want to sit him down and tell him he needs to put out on demand this coming week, whether he likes it or not, dtd must be his priority! that's what i want to tell him, but i know that will initiate the whole "let's just let it happen" schpeel.

[jenniferadurham]

Originally Posted by KingsDaughter76

Jennifer~ I really think you are fine....my Peri did not do anything till I had 3 m/c in a row...and before that I had given birth to 3 kids with NO m/c....it was after my 3rd child that I started having problems staying preggo...they checked my levels and I was VERY low on progesterone...so now I have to supplement...my last 2 m/c's were from either not getting on the progesterone fast enough (m/c before I had Madilynn) or from not having enough of it in my system (last m/c)....they are increasing my meds now to hopefully prevent another loss when we get preggo again. I was told it is very normal to experience at least 1-2 m/c's....and most docs won't do anything till you have had 3 or more.

That's what I'm thinking too! thank you!

Originally Posted by Tulpen88

Jennifer - I agree that you probably don't need to worry about progesterone. If you have any concerns, talk to your doctor though. It sucks that this family friend put doubts in your mind.

My DR said that I'm perfectly healthy. I didn't really have any doubts bc I've had 2 healthy babies, I think she had more doubts about my fertility than I did! LOL!!!

[Sweet.Bee]

Finnegansmom: Do your boys nap in their room? That might be a good time. Or after they go to bed but before you do. As for the method, sexy lingerie! Or perhaps a date night to lighten things up? A bath together?

In other news, I am starting to think about vitamins! What does everyone take? I was thinking a prenatal/multi, folic acid, and omega-3. Is that overkill? Last pregnancy, I did folic acid plus omega-3, then later a multi when I found one that seemed ok. I was really good about taking them in the beginning, but as soon as the morning sickness hit, the sight of pills made me gag, and I slacked off.

And tomorrow is my post-surgery checkup for my wisdom teeth extraction. The stitches and some nasty disinfectant-drenched gauze they wedged up into the hole in my gum come out! Sadly, we are all sick with the flu, and I have this stupid fake period to deal with, but soon all of that will be behind us, and we can start looking ahead to maybe soon TTC #2.

[TheDivineMrsM]

CLH - Have fun!!

SweetBee - I had my wisdom teeth out awhile ago. Yogart is your friend! And having that on top of the flu... yikes. Feel better!!

Finn - Sounds like TC is making you run an obstacle course! If your boys sleep in your bed, can you sneak out of the room and get busy on the LR couch? Men can make you bang your head in the wall, can't they?? I agree with the PPs, though - put on some lingere, light some candles, or just pounce on him. I doubt he'd tell you "no" after that...

I need advice on a BD schedule. We typically would BD every day between now (CD10) and O (CD13). (DH's SA came back basically saying that he's superman, so lowering the swimmer count isn't an issue). But six months of that w/o a bfp has made me cynical. Should we do it less? more? I'm open to suggestions!

[JonahRoo]

Hi Ladies...i need support today. I tested today at 13dpo and it came back negative. Granted i didnt do it first thing in the morning but I am wondering if anyone still got a positive after 13 dpo? I typically start AF around 14-15 dpo. I swear I thouht I was pregnant. I had AF type cramping from 4dpo-8 dpo (not ovulation type cramping) and I never experience this kind of cramping before i get AF. Aside from fatigue and extreme hunger, the past two days have felt VERY horomonal and I want to cry about everything. Maybe AF is about to come....but just wondering if I can still keep hoping for that BFP or does it seem unlikely at this point? I know we are all different with different experiences...but I just want to hear what everyone thinks.

Thanks!

[karmab]

jonahroo it can still happen. test again tomorrow or the next day if no af. it's not over till it's over. good luck!

[finnegansmom]

Thanks for the tips and advice ladies.
My boys do nap in their room, which is now but my dh is no where to be seen.
I'm really annoyed with DH right now, he's being a little brat and if my temp goes up tomorrow I'm going to be pissed because we missed the window. How can TTC not be stressful? Really? Durr. Of course it is, I try to hide my OPKs and therm and whatevers from him, but he heard my BBT this week because he's off from school so know he's suspicious of my intentions, which wouldn't bother me except that I will probably ovulate this week. I'm just really in a bad mood now, since he's being such a little sensitive baby about it ... "I feel too stressed and that you're using me...".... UMMMM?? I feel like I married a 16 year old girl sometimes. From the 1800s mind you. DURR DURR DURR.

[JonahRoo]

Originally Posted by finnegansmom

I'm really annoyed with DH right now, he's being a little brat and if my temp goes up tomorrow I'm going to be pissed because we missed the window. How can TTC not be stressful? Really? Durr. Of course it is, I try to hide my OPKs and therm and whatevers from him, but he heard my BBT this week because he's off from school so know he's suspicious of my intentions, which wouldn't bother me except that I will probably ovulate this week. I'm just really in a bad mood now, since he's being such a little sensitive baby about it ... "I feel too stressed and that you're using me...".... UMMMM?? I feel like I married a 16 year old girl sometimes. From the 1800s mind you. DURR DURR DURR.

My DH pulled this "episode" a few weeks ago as well. After all this talk about TTC #2 I thought he was all on board until i told him "I'm ovulating this week!" and he shut down, acted disinterested all week, stayed distant and then when i called him on it (after trying seduce him many times with no success) he said the same thing: "I feel like your using me for my seed! why can't we just let it happen? I can't just flip a switch like that!" I was beyond frustrated. I even had really good reasons as to why this month was the best month to TTC (based on DH's traveling schedule next year). Anyway, we dtd once and I am afraid we missed the window. I know I learned my lesson....never again will I tell DH when I am ovulating! I have no other words of wisdom except just letting you know that I have been there too.

[finnegansmom]

Originally Posted by JonahRoo

My DH pulled this "episode" a few weeks ago as well. After all this talk about TTC #2 I thought he was all on board until i told him "I'm ovulating this week!" and he shut down, acted disinterested all week, stayed distant and then when i called him on it (after trying seduce him many times with no success) he said the same thing: "I feel like your using me for my seed! why can't we just let it happen? I can't just flip a switch like that!" I was beyond frustrated. I even had really good reasons as to why this month was the best month to TTC (based on DH's traveling schedule next year). Anyway, we dtd once and I am afraid we missed the window. I know I learned my lesson....never again will I tell DH when I am ovulating! I have no other words of wisdom except just letting you know that I have been there too.

It's just so frustrating, because TTC is stressful enough. You can't control the egg and the sperm and your body and your cervix, KWIM? BUT you should be at least able to control when you DTD. Especially when it's with someone your partners with. I shouldn't have to be kniving and elusive, and I definately know better then to let him see my chart or anything related to TTC in the slightest, especially after our loss in Feb since he flat out told me that TTC would stress him out and I respect that, but he just gets so suspicious now whenever I want to snuggle or anything, and it's kind of depressing to be honest. Today isn't a good day for me, i would have been 18 weeks today and our level II US was (is still) scheduled for this Thursday. I feel like I've been ttc forever and I didn't expect to be back here again (no offense to you awesome ladies )

[karmab]

none taken, michelle. sorry you are having a bad day.

someone once told me- when your children are least lovable, that's when they need the most love. same goes, i think, for husbands. and it's always they are least lovable on the days you most need them to be there for you, isn't it.

do you have family around who could take the kids out to dinner or overnight, and give you and dh a little time alone together? is it too cold there for a romantic picnic dinner on the beach? maybe a nice restaurant? or pizza at home and rent a movie, take a bubble bath together. give you a chance to take a deep breath and tell him you love him and you are having a tough time, and just be tender with each other.

this whole thing is hard on a couple, there is no doubt, and it's hard on us. and they say here in the south, if mama aint happy, aint nobody happy. take care of you. love your kids and extra love to your hubby, even if he is aggravating. you are going to get through this, and you are going to get your bfp that sticks.

[CLH_X3]

BIG HUGS FOR FINN

and I defo agree with what Karmab is saying, when you need your OH the most sometimes thats the time they become insensitive and just dont understand why your upset!! MEN!!

[mumma cop kaz]

Michelle- i'm so sorry about your DH. Can I say though that no man can resist a naked woman! Just a thought??

I loved karmabs post, very insightful, the other thing I was thinking is if you guys have talked about how he feels about your loss? Is so tragic that it happened and maybe he is reluctant to try again in case it happens again. Maybe you guys need to have that conversation if you haven't already maybe after walking around naked and dtd, cos that conversation is probably not great foreplay.

Last night DH said 'remember when riley gave us a scare, man he is such a strong kid', he was referring to me waking up in a pool of blood at 9 weeks and rushing to the hospital, being booked in for a D and C and then being sent for an ultrasound and surprisingly seeing our little jelly bean had a heartbeat. I then spotted until 13 weeks, it was all very scary. Now i think about that a fair bit, but had no idea that DH still thinks about it. I asked him why he was thinking about it and he said, 'because I think youre pregnant'. Which made me think that our DHs think about the whole TTC thing too and its not just us who obsess about it.

[finnegansmom]

You ladies have given me something to think about. Maybe he needs a hug. Like the Charlie Brown Christmas tree. I don't know. He asked me if I was still upset with him and I said YES and I think he wants to make it up to me. Of course we had peace and quiet this morning but he decided to be chaste. I'll see if I can be nice tonight. of course, the kids slept late for their naps so by the time I get them to sleep (nurse my toddler) it can be after 9pm. I'll see what I can do. Thanks for the kind words ladies.

Oh Mumma, me naked is not so pretty. In a word, YIKES.

[KingsDaughter76]

*HUGS Michelle*

[Stevi]

Finnegansmom... Let's see... So, after the tykes are tucked in snug in your bed... Make yourself and hubby a couple of ice cream sundaes, only, forget the chocolate syrup... Tell hubby to get comfy on the couch and you shall bring the syrup in... Accidently spill some syrup right down the neck of your hubbys shirt... Say "ooopsie!"... Help him off with his shirt, give him the look and start licking off that chocolate!!!! (The rest, I'll leave to your imagination.)

Everybody have a Fertile Day!!!

[TheDivineMrsM]

Originally Posted by Stevi

Finnegansmom... Let's see... So, after the tykes are tucked in snug in your bed... Make yourself and hubby a couple of ice cream sundaes, only, forget the chocolate syrup... Tell hubby to get comfy on the couch and you shall bring the syrup in... Accidently spill some syrup right down the neck of your hubbys shirt... Say "ooopsie!"... Help him off with his shirt, give him the look and start licking off that chocolate!!!! (The rest, I'll leave to your imagination.)

Everybody have a Fertile Day!!!

LMAO.

Finn - listen to the woman

Seriously though, I'm a counselor, and if it's one thing I've learned, it's that most "unexplainable" actions are caused by fear or something. I agree with the PP that questions your DH's feelings on your recent loss. Men (in general) aren't great at expressing their emotions. Is it possible that he's not ready to try again?

I hope it all works out for you!

[Aly22681]

Originally Posted by Stevi

Finnegansmom... Let's see... So, after the tykes are tucked in snug in your bed... Make yourself and hubby a couple of ice cream sundaes, only, forget the chocolate syrup... Tell hubby to get comfy on the couch and you shall bring the syrup in... Accidently spill some syrup right down the neck of your hubbys shirt... Say "ooopsie!"... Help him off with his shirt, give him the look and start licking off that chocolate!!!! (The rest, I'll leave to your imagination.)

Everybody have a Fertile Day!!!

Oh how I have missed you Stevi, I might just be trying that one soon!!

[MI_Dawn]

Originally Posted by Stevi

Accidently spill some syrup right down the neck of your hubbys shirt... Say "ooopsie!"... Help him off with his shirt, give him the look and start licking off that chocolate!!!! (The rest, I'll leave to your imagination.)

Dang, it was just getting good!

AFM: Waiting to O is soooooooooooooo boooooooooooooooring!