my dss is a private guy, unlike my boys, who are very comfortable with there bodies and not shy, he is very private, but now at 12 he is going through puberty faster then his brothers.
Does he go to his father with questions? nope. Me. He asks me everything, and I refuse to sugar coat anything. There is no stork, babies do not get implanted into the belly button by a fairy. kwim?
Anyways I got him a book, "whats going on down there?" and he is reading it. His school has a very basic sex ed class that nowhere near answers the stuff going through this kids head.
He told Grandma about the book, so MIL calls me, ranting that this is something dad should be discussing with him, DH has offered but DSS says he is more comfortable talking to me about it, I guess he sees me as less of a threat? Or maybe just more comfortable with our relationship that he knows I won't laugh at any of his questions. Anyway DH told MIL to pretty much mind her own business.
then she learns about what I told him last week. He asked me when he can/should have sex for the first time. I told him I hope he waits long enough to know how much responsibility comes with the actual act of sex. He says "I think I should wait till I am 18". I said that sounded great.
whoa, you would have thought I told the kid to slaughter goats for sacrifice. MIL yelled at me and told me I should have told him he had to wait until he was married, that it is the law. LOL
Anyway she rubs me the wrong way sometimes. But I kinda think its funny, His dad didn't wait, I didn't wait. I just want him to do it at a healthy time in his life and for it to be a positive experience kwim?
Does he go to his father with questions? nope. Me. He asks me everything, and I refuse to sugar coat anything. There is no stork, babies do not get implanted into the belly button by a fairy. kwim?
Anyways I got him a book, "whats going on down there?" and he is reading it. His school has a very basic sex ed class that nowhere near answers the stuff going through this kids head.
He told Grandma about the book, so MIL calls me, ranting that this is something dad should be discussing with him, DH has offered but DSS says he is more comfortable talking to me about it, I guess he sees me as less of a threat? Or maybe just more comfortable with our relationship that he knows I won't laugh at any of his questions. Anyway DH told MIL to pretty much mind her own business.
then she learns about what I told him last week. He asked me when he can/should have sex for the first time. I told him I hope he waits long enough to know how much responsibility comes with the actual act of sex. He says "I think I should wait till I am 18". I said that sounded great.
whoa, you would have thought I told the kid to slaughter goats for sacrifice. MIL yelled at me and told me I should have told him he had to wait until he was married, that it is the law. LOL
Anyway she rubs me the wrong way sometimes. But I kinda think its funny, His dad didn't wait, I didn't wait. I just want him to do it at a healthy time in his life and for it to be a positive experience kwim?
i think you did a great job
I think you did beautifully.
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