babywearing issues

[mommy212]

My LO is 20wo. I bought a mai tai (we had to scrape and scrounge for it) and he likes it sometimes.... but in the house, he does NOT want to be in it. He just wants to be held. I have tried facing in and out and both I get the same reaction: fussiness followed by crying if I don't take him out and hold him soon. I can't get a whole lot done... sometimes he will let me sit him in his bouncy chair for a bit, but I don't like that too much and he will only sit for maybe 5 minutes, so i have trouble cooking, doing laundry, eating... just about everything! I don't think we have money for another type of sling, especially one I am not sure would even fix the problem. UGH!

[Magelet]

can you sell the mei tei and use that to buy a different type? Do you have a friend with some slings (or maybe someone from lll or a local babywearing group who can come over and let you try some different styles first or lend them to you to try, so you can find something your LO likes, before selling the one you have and buying something else?)

[staceychev]

Does he sit up on his own? Maybe he would like sitting in a Bumbo, which helps him sit upright and see the world, rather than a bouncy seat that keeps him reclined.

You said about the bouncy that you don't like it... but honestly, some kids don't necessarily meet our expectations of what type of attachment we want to promote. Kids also go through phases. Perhaps he's just not in a babywearing phase right now. He may be able to see the world in a better way when you carry him by hand, and that's why he prefers it. I know my daughter went in and out of it, and I carried her regularly in a mei tai until she was three, and then occasionally after that.

I would keep trying the mei tai and wait a bit before you look into selling it.

[Camile Rynd]

I had this same sort of baby. He wasn't interested in ANY type of sling if we were in the house. Once we were outside walking around he was fine, but inside, no way! He would wiggle and squirm and complain! I tried the moby, the baby bjorn, the shoulder sling, the mei tai, nothing worked but being held. Once he could hold himself up a bit, he sort of tolerated the shoulder sling for short periods of time, but overall, just didn't like being confined.

He wasn't much of a sleeper either, so I just did whatever I could while holding him or during his very brief naps. He never did change his attitude about being worn inside. He needed to be carried for the first 13 months of his life too. He didn't tolerate being put down at all, pretty classic high needs baby stuff. He is two now and very relaxed, happy, smart and loving. He still doesn't sleep well though. Someday, I suppose

Good luck!

[lifeguard]

Ds didn't like being worn in the house generally - I think because I wasn't moving enough. Even when we were out & about if I was standing still he'd get fussy & I'd find myself bouncing or swaying to keep him happy.

[almadianna]

At 20 weeks some want to see the world. Maybe try a high back carry?