ANOTHER TMI Sex Question!

[AFWife]

I'm almost a year PP and sex is still uncomfortable... We used to be, uhm, adventurous in our positions and I can't do that anymore. Everything but missionary feels slightly painful. It's almost like my vagina changed shape and tilted after birth. I mean, some of that is expected because I pushed a baby out of it...but it's starting to get rough on our sex life. (well, it already was rough...I'm just now brave enough to post about it)

Normal?

[josie423]

Yup, has happened to me! My cervix has felt lower since having babies and feels like it gets poked. I am pregnant now, so it is high and not uncomfortable anymore, but I am anticipating the discomfort after this baby is born.

Have you tried kegels?

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by josie423

Yup, has happened to me! My cervix has felt lower since having babies and feels like it gets poked. I am pregnant now, so it is high and not uncomfortable anymore, but I am anticipating the discomfort after this baby is born.

Have you tried kegels?

Yes, I try to remember to do them...

It's like the whole shape is different...it's not so much my cervix as my entire vagina

[zoebird]

yeah, i know that feeling. mine is slightly curved to the one side. at 14 mo, that wasn't as big a deal anymore--everything seemed to go back to relative normalcy, or rather, it was closer to normal and not a problem.

kegels were a big part of it, because that will take it back to the original shape (or close to).

i like to change it up too, and it wasn't so much fun to do so before 13-14 months after.

[bjorker]

I find it so interesting how everyone is different. For me, it's so much more painful during pregnancy, and last time after dd, felt so much better after she was born (and I was all healed up, of course). Again with this pregnancy, it hurts so much more. I have to take it easy and can't go for very long.

Sorry I have nothing helpful to say, other than make him do it in the position that feels best to you. Hopefully your dh is understanding and is working with you to figure out how to make it more pleasurable.

[prancie]

It was a long time before sex was comfy for me and i had a c-section. I don't remember if it was a full year, but it wasn't far off from that. Make sure you are aroused before you "begin" and see if that doesn't help a little.

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

Your guy is still little, so I assume still nursing. I honestly could not get back into the swing of things sexually until I wasn't nursing anymore. Hormones and "other things" played a big roll how comfortable it was to have sex.

[dachshund mom]

It could be the breastfeeding. Has your cycle returned? We've been having major problems and I thought it was because I had a third degree tear, but it seems to be dryness. I recently started an estrogen cream and it's helping a ton. Lots of Astroglide is good too.

[Aka mommy]

Breastfeeding made me it more difficult for me with my first. Plus i had an episiotomy that i was recovering from and it literally took over a year. Have you tried more lube?

[AFWife]

Time for more TMI right?


It's not a lubrication problem...we bought some for that very purpose because BFing has killed that for right now (I got AF back 5 months ago)
Here comes the TMI part: It feels like his penis doesn't fit the same way... I was just wondering if anyone else had BTDT...I know it's not necessarily something I can "Fix"

[dogmom327]

You might consider seeing a PT who specializes in woman's heath issues. They can do amazing things.

[*EarthMama*]

Originally Posted by Barbie64g

Your guy is still little, so I assume still nursing. I honestly could not get back into the swing of things sexually until I wasn't nursing anymore. Hormones and "other things" played a big roll how comfortable it was to have sex.