Question and ideas please

[Katie T]

I have a little girl who is 20months. She has been potty training on her on since like 17 months. (Asking to go pee and poo and actually making it.) I have been letting her run naked as we rarely were having accidents and it was easier to get to the potty without having to fiddle with a diaper.

Lately she has fallen off the potty wagon. If I ask her if she needs to go potty she will tell me no. ( If I just try and place her on the potty she stiffins out saying NO!)

My question is she HATES diapers now and it is a 10 minute fight to get a prefold on her. I wouldn't be against her running naked if we didn't have mostly carpet. So with you EC experts what do you do in this situation. Nothing around here has changed. I feel bad putting a diaper on her since she is soo against them.

Do you have any ideas/opinions/experiences to share with me. I don't want to push or deter potty learning. She is very verbal but not easy to reason with lol.

Thanks for anything you can throw my way.

[sosurreal09]

maybe shes going through an independent phase? why not put the potty in the living room or something and tell her im not going to ask you when you need to potty b/c your a big girl and i know you can do it on your own now and just leave her to it.
she obvs knows when she needs to go and is refusing for a different reason than that...

thats all ive got hope it helps lol

[Katie T]

Originally Posted by anielasmommy09

maybe shes going through an independent phase? why not put the potty in the living room or something and tell her im not going to ask you when you need to potty b/c your a big girl and i know you can do it on your own now and just leave her to it.
she obvs knows when she needs to go and is refusing for a different reason than that...

thats all ive got hope it helps lol

I will try that but have little hope it will work because she won't go in the little potty anymore so I put it in the basement. Maybe this week will be different lol who knows with a toddler.

[georgiamum]

how about using those gerber training pants from target? they're like thick underwear and will prevent puddles

[Katie T]

Originally Posted by georgiamum

how about using those gerber training pants from target? they're like thick underwear and will prevent puddles

I feel like I'm shooting down every response people give me, but I have some from Ds and she won't leave them on.

Keep the ideas coming, I really appreciate it!

[zoebird]

have you asked her why she isn't using potty? have yuo explained that not going in the potty is dirty and can make everyone sick if she does it on the carpets, even if you clean it up?

my guy doesn't talk much, but he understand everything. i had to start calling chocolate "the dark stuff" so that DS wouldn't get the hint that i was having it at night. he knows what chocolate is even though he can't say it himself.

so, when he wants to run around without his training pants on--in our mostly carpeted apartment--i explain to him that if he has to go potty, he needs to go in the toilet in the bathroom (he doesn't like little potties at all and never has).

right now, he's a combination of asking me to support him on the potty and just going up to the bathroom and going next to the toilet and then pointing that out to me.

i thank him for both, every time. but when he goes on the floor in the bathroom, i tell him to be sure and ask for help when he wants it so that we don't ahve to clean up as much mess. he's asking for help more and more again.

[lisavark]

You say she won't use the little potty--is she using an adult toilet with a step? If not, then maybe that would help?--something different and exciting. Or maybe a new potty? I would definitely ask her what would make her enjoy using the potty again and see if she can figure out a way to work with you. If she's verbal enough to have that conversation, anyway...

[Katie T]

Thanks everyone. I hadn't thought of having a convo about it with her. She still seems so little to me lol. I have told her when she has a accident or when I take her diaper off in the morning and after nap that she needs to tell me when she needs to potty. I will talk with her more tomorrow and see if that helps.

We have a step stool by the toilet and a little toilet ring for the little ones. She is so short that even with the stool she needs help to get up on the toilet. (she is tiny). I hadn't thought of buying a new training toilet maybe we can get stickers to decorate the white one we have, I don't really want to buy another one.

Thanks again! Hopefully we can get it figured out soon as it is I'm gunna have to shampoo my new carpet with bac-out lol.

[sapphire_chan]

Is it warm enough there to get outdoor time? Even a few hours a day where you can relax about your carpets could be helpful

[Katie T]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan

Is it warm enough there to get outdoor time? Even a few hours a day where you can relax about your carpets could be helpful

I wish, here it is 40s so no naked outdoor time.

[JMJ]

Hmm... a lot of the good ideas have been said already, so there's not much left to my brainstorm. What if you put different bowls around the living room that she could go in herself, and you could just wash whichever one she goes in? Is she old enough to get excited about "big girl panties" (trainers) and a special shopping trip to go buy them?

[Katie T]

Originally Posted by JMJ

Hmm... a lot of the good ideas have been said already, so there's not much left to my brainstorm. What if you put different bowls around the living room that she could go in herself, and you could just wash whichever one she goes in? Is she old enough to get excited about "big girl panties" (trainers) and a special shopping trip to go buy them?

Unfortunately shopping doesn't excite her yet. I tried talking with her amongst other ideas on here and she doesn't really seem to care. I am guessing she is just taking a break from it so when I can I have been throwing a diaper on her (funny thing is sometimes the struggle is easier at least yesterday) I guess she will let me know when she is ready to try again.

Yesterday I would say let use the potty and if she said no I told her then we are going to put a diaper on and you can tell mommy when you need to go potty. She would just pee in her diaper. It is like recognizing the urg to go is poof gone lol.

She is young and I'm not in a hurry to train her just wanted to try and respect her hate for diapers but ...

[marija_jane]

My thoughts are that you could get really cute training pants that she will like, if she's one of those girls that gets into the cutesy clothes thing. Otherwise, some thick sweatpants would absorb most of the pee instead of a diaper and very easy for little ones to take off for pottying without help, which was a big deal for my DS.

[sapphire_chan]

Pull-on trainers, or even a loosely fastened diaper, will let your dd help with putting them on. Lina will scream her head off if I try to lay her down and dress her, but she'll happily step right into her undies and pants.

Just thought I'd mention that in case you're trying to snap or velcro things on.

[spirit4ever]

half the time i ask dd she says no, half the time i sing a song and make sitting on the potty fun! now she the itsy bitsy spider song, so i scoop her up and say "lets go sing the itsy bitsy spider on the potty!!!' it works!

SHe also doesn't like wearing much, but as soon as she's engrossed in play she doesn't really notice when i slip her into her training undies!

And she has just hit an age where I say "ok, lets put your undies on then we can get a snack.. or num nums.. or whatever she is really interested in doing!"