i'm not quite sure exactly where to post this. dd is barely 1 yo, but i'm asking for future reference.
here's the story: i currently live on the other side of the country from my parents. i was raised with a lot of spanking, threatening, conditional parenting, yelling and a lot of fighting. i've strayed far away from that and practice unconditional parenting to the best i can. i've been reading so much and working on loving responses and will continue to grow in that field (not just with DD but also with all relationships).
the thing is, my parents are visiting soon and on the webcam, they're already saying a lot of "NO" and "that's wrong! don't do that" kind of stuff to DD. i've already explained to them that i prefer different approaches and only say no when absolutely necessary (not many reasons to do that now, anyway).
they're always trying to convince us to move east. but every time they're over, they're always so controlling and i don't want to be in that atmosphere-it stresses me out too much and doesn't bring out the best in me. so i'm obviously comfortable with sticking around out west. the last time they visited, they were so manipulative that i kicked them out. and they expect me to apologize.
how do i (nicely) tell them to back off when it comes to approaching DD in a controlling way? i don't want them to EVER raise a hand at her or yell at her for silly, petty reasons.
any ideas?
here's the story: i currently live on the other side of the country from my parents. i was raised with a lot of spanking, threatening, conditional parenting, yelling and a lot of fighting. i've strayed far away from that and practice unconditional parenting to the best i can. i've been reading so much and working on loving responses and will continue to grow in that field (not just with DD but also with all relationships).
the thing is, my parents are visiting soon and on the webcam, they're already saying a lot of "NO" and "that's wrong! don't do that" kind of stuff to DD. i've already explained to them that i prefer different approaches and only say no when absolutely necessary (not many reasons to do that now, anyway).
they're always trying to convince us to move east. but every time they're over, they're always so controlling and i don't want to be in that atmosphere-it stresses me out too much and doesn't bring out the best in me. so i'm obviously comfortable with sticking around out west. the last time they visited, they were so manipulative that i kicked them out. and they expect me to apologize.
how do i (nicely) tell them to back off when it comes to approaching DD in a controlling way? i don't want them to EVER raise a hand at her or yell at her for silly, petty reasons.
any ideas?
