The topic is getting derailed a little bit so I just wanted to try to get things back on track for those still with us.
The original question was, in short, if anyone knew of any research that shows a correlation between non-natural birth and mothers who have difficulty bonding with their babies after the birth.
We know for a fact that oxytocin and prolactin are not released in the same large amounts during medicated and surgical birth as during natural birth. We also know for a fact that many mothers have a lot of trouble bonding with their babies and that this can cause some mothers to have a lot of difficulty in the early days of motherhood. We know that oxytocin and prolactin are primal mothering hormones. It is therefore not irrational to question whether there may be a possible relation between the two in women who have difficulties.
The discussion is not about whether mothers love their children or about "good" and "bad" moms, nor is it about parents who choose to do CIO months down the road. The question is about bonding immediately after birth and those first crucial days of motherhood.
No one is saying mothers who do not have natural births are failures.
No one is saying mothers who do not have natural births are bad mothers.
No one is saying mothers who do not bond with their babies are bad mothers or that mothers who bond with their babies are good mothers.
No one is saying that if you have a non-natural birth that you are not going to bond with your baby.
No one is stereotyping or labeling anyone here.
No one is saying that anyone does not love their baby or will NOT bond with their baby in future.
If you disagree with the theory, that's fine and definitely let me know why you think so. Personal experience is perfect. You can agree or disagree. You can even call me crazy if you want to, that's your opinion.
It isn't fair, however, to put unrelated words in someone's mouth or accuse them of saying or insinuating horrible things which they never did. It would be great if we could stick to the subject because bringing in personal issues that are unrelated in order to blame someone else just isn't fair.
It isn't fair to those who are accused who did not say it, it isn't fair to those who are just joining who skim over the initial post and then read the replies and are inflamed by them and post thinking that's what the issue is, and it especially isn't fair to those mothers who DID have problems bonding with their babies and who might be interested in finding out if there may have been a correlation. It's not fair for these moms to feel like someone is labeling them as a "good" or "bad" mom because of their birth experience.
So if we can focus on birth bonding immediately after birth and refrain from saying "good" or "bad mom," that would be awesome!
We are ALL mamas here and we ALL love our babies. (And bonding stories about adoption are related, too, so DO share your experience if you immediately bonded with your adopted child)