Raging baby?

[Miasmamma]

As of late we are having some issues with baby rage! It all happens when I am gone, or when she can't get to me. She screams, cries, refuses to be held or comforted, etc. We tried Rescue Remedy last week with no success. Let me preface this by saying that I am gone for ONE 2 hour stretch a week. I have decided to forgo my me time since it's so hard on her, but is that making it worse? I know that we are in a prime separation anxiety age zone, but this seems extreme. I was gone for an hour this AM to take my older DD to the dentist and my DH said she was fine for the first 10 mins or so and then once he changed her and got her dressed, which made her mad, it was all down hill. The moment I come back and take her, it stops. Instantly.

Any ideas? She's just 9 months BTW.

[karika]

I think listening to the baby's needs is always the best course of action. Try to get your 'me' time without having to leave the home? I believe that if we follow our AP gut, and as mothers remain attached to them physically until they make the decision to get down, move away, explore, then we create more sound individuals. Giving all of ourselves to the situation when they are babies will create someone that can handle anything down the road when they are no longer babies. It is hard for us to give ourselves fully in most cases, because we weren't raised this way (in most cases) so to have someone touching us physically 23/7 is not what we are used to, but in order to break the cycle of the myth of separation, I believe it is the path. I have a 16 mo and also have very little 'me' time (also a 6 yo) so I have 'me' time when I am with them as much as that can be. I do yoga with the 6 yo in the lr. I take the 16 mo in the bathroom with me and let her explore on the floor as I shower. When she was about 11 mo I started going to the grocery store solo (didn't try it prior), leaving her with my parenting partner (male). She didn't have any problems, and usually falls asleep while I am gone. I am gone 1 hour or less. If I see she feels stressed about it (I am empath) then I take her, or postpone to another time, or he goes shopping. I feel our children will have so much stress later in life, but maybe, just maybe if we are as attached as possible now, they will not even experience those later traumas as stress?

[Miasmamma]

The 2 hours I am gone are to a bible study that I can't take her too. I would love to and I did try, but she's too disruptive! She likes to talk, a lot. Any other time she does go with me wherever I go. I know that this will pass and she will get better, I would just like to know if there is something I can do for her in the meantime. And I have theater tickets for Wicked in a month....I know that this could all be resolved by then and I am taking steps for it to be as seamless a transition as possible. I would just say I'll give up my ticket, but that's not fair to my DH or myself. We need to focus on "us" just once.