Originally Posted by almadianna
I get that a great deal. My son has blue eyes like my husband and I get, "oh he is so lucky he got his dad's eyes and hair"... um.. thanks I guess?
I got the "You're so lucky you don't look Jewish" comments all growing up.
I even once described my sister as "more Jewish looking than I am" and the woman gasped and said "How could you say such a thing
about your own sister?!?"
I'm all "My sister is very attractive. Are you implying that looking Jewish is a bad thing?"
That shut her up.
Why would the "Mexican" comment be offensive? Is it bad
to look Mexican? I would have interpreted it that the children didn't look typically mixed white/AA. Nothing wrong with that!
It would be offensive for someone to comment that mixed half-siblings were not "real" siblings somehow. I met an AA coworker's daughter once. She was showing me a picture of something and she had another picture of a pretty white girl in her album. "Oh who is that?" "My sister" she said causally and moved on. I had never met her dad or seen a picture and had no idea
she was mixed. I made no comment.
I wouldn't take the cute half-Asian baby comment as being offensive. While it's true that all
babies are cute, it's fun seeing how mixed babies display the contrasting traits from their parents. I met a half-Vietnamese, half German girl yesterday (who had grown up in France and spoke German but not Vietnamese). Black straight hair with freckles and asian eyes. Mixed children are cute because they're a little unique. Some are a definite display of one parent or the other, others a real blend and yet others, look like something else.
A friend was AA/Native American mixed and he husband was German. Her handsome son could have been a dozen different things. I told him "Do you know how many countries you can travel to and they wont know you're a tourist? I'm curious how many languages you'll be spoken to in your lifetime..." He liked that idea!
In places like Brazil and the Caribbean, being mixed is the norm!