Dss has always wanted to live with his mom, she left when he was around 2, so I think it's just the unknown that attracts him. She has been in and out of trouble for drugs and theft for around 12 years now and lives in a diffrent state then us. She of course tells the kids she is a changed person and has now found a good man and God and that she would love to have him come live with her. She has given him several dates that she will come get him and then always changes it. It is generally blamed on the fact that she is being forced to pay child support and she can't afford that and him. She owes back support and it will take a while for her to get out of that hole. We haven't had any child support deposited for 2 mo now, so I would say she is off probation and no longer working. The bigest problem is that dss believes that she wants him and I don't think he believes that it matters what happens in school here because he thinks he will be leaving. He is flunking everything and someone he was with was just caught shoplifting. He is already in the juvinal system and I don't think he gets what that means if he keeps this behavior up. He no longer lives with us, but, his grandmother. He thought we were too hard on him and he stole from me and there was also a question of him being inappropropriate with young girls and I have 3 young dds. I just don't know what to do, dh lets his mom handel all the dicipline because he is in her house. I just don't think she does much of anything. She doesn't ask about homework, lets him go places and do things even though he doesn't do anything in school and also seems to give him money for tasks he doesn't do or at least not completly. This is a very sore subject for my family all the way around, does anyone have any tips on a situation such as this???
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3/17/10 at 4:22pm