Originally Posted by velochic
Thank you. I agree. I'm fine with her going if she is comfortable with it. Actually, it would be nice if they offered a day camp first.
It's hard for people to relate when it's such a foreign concept... co-sleeping at 8... and I realize that. It may be so unique that the only thing I can do is just not ask for outside advice from people who have never been in that situation and try my best to do what we can.
I don't think the responses here are necessarily due to people's not understanding the issue. Some may be, but I don't think it's useful to just dismiss them all on that basis.
FWIW, my daughter is almost nine and still co-sleeps. She has not once spent a night in her own bed. She has a few times slept with my mom instead. She has been on a few sleepovers, primarily with friends who have parents who will lie down with the kids to go to sleep and stay in the room (so, she still had an adult she knew and trusted sleeping with her).
She also went to sleepaway camp last summer for a few nights. And was fine. Nervous, and lonely at times, esp the first night, but fine, and VERY happy she did it. She clearly really really wanted to go. If she'd had a choice to do all the daytime stuff and come sleep with me at night, I'm pretty sure she'd have gone for that. But, it wasn't a choice, any more than that's a choice for your daughter, so it sort of doesn't matter if that's what she'd prefer.
For my daughter, we spoke quite a bit about the pros and cons. The bottom line was that she really really wanted to go, and was also very scared abt going and what the nighttime would be like. I saw my job as helping her with that fear so she could do the thing she really really wanted to go, and we did that in a few different ways. It helped that it was an intro to camping program, so really all or almost all of the kids were also at camp for the first time, and the counselors were well prepared for that. Which my daughter knew. I would think the same would be true for your daughter's trip, that at that age, surely for many of them it'll be their first time away from home like that, and so it's not like your daughter will stand out in that way. Further, she will be with lots of people she knows, and even if the teacher in her cabin isn't her beloved teacher, surely she will be kind and comforting to scared little kids in her care, as will all the other people around.
So, I vote that you help her to be able to go. I don't think that's the same thing at all as forcing her to go (she wants to go, but is scared), or telling her to suck it up (you'll be helping her to deal with her fears). I think it's helping her do something she wants to do, something that is also an expectation of the school you chose to enroll her in, and something that will be a continued expectation if she stays there, so starting with everyone else seems much more helpful to me than working to get her out of it now, thus potentially making next year's trip even more daunting.