Hello,
I'm 28 years old and a mother of one beautiful little boy. He is the light of my life. Until the beginning of Febuary, I was kept a prisoner in an abusive relationship. I was never married to the man and I suffered abuse of mental, physical, and sexual. I called the police on him many times beforehand and he was arrested back in November 2009 for an assault charge which he plead guilty for. Throughout the relationship, he kept all of the finances and spent them on whatever he wanted (which usually consisted of alcohol and drugs.) He also kept my son and I isolated away from friends and family.
We were residing with his parents from 2008 up until the time I got out. I finally got enough strength and courage to make it out. I called the Friendship Center and the police came out to the house. My child and I left the house. My ex was not there because he ran from the police then later claimed that he was not there because of his anxiety issues with people.
When I got out of the state with my son and to my hometown, I filed a restraining order against my ex. The state however, said that since my two year old was born in Montana that the custody was vacated back to Montana. My ex never told the court that he violated the Montana Family Partner Act which falls under the assault. He never told the judge nor made any mention of his violent history, but instead lied to the courts and said I was mentally unstable.
So now I am back in Montana, trying to fight for custody of my son. I have an attorney who is pretty respectable. We tried to work out a parenting plan with my ex that would have allowed us equal time with my son, but my ex refused any visitation whatsoever. I have not seen my son in 28 days and every day that goes by it really does hurt my heart. I have no criminal background, I'm not a violent person, I took parenting class with the court system voluntarily and got a certificate for, and well... I'm just trying to live and get my son back. Just trying to move forward.
The papers have all been filed with the courts. My ex thinks that since I am a manga artist and a writer, he turned in old drawings and pieces of my writings which he wants the courts to use as evidence against me for being a bad parent. If he was able to do that, wouldn't it take away my first ammendment rights? He's also trying to say that I'm a bad parent because I am not heterosexual.
My ex is 25, suffers from severe social anxiety, has a very bad temper, has a history of violence, drinking problem, sells drugs on the side, and is basically your all around wannabe gang banger. He wasn't always like that though *sigh*
Anyways, I hope to gain custody of my child and return back to my home state where I can go back to college and move forward. When I had my son with me in my home state for the little amount of time, he was really enjoying himself. We went on bus rides, he had playmates, took him to the park, it was a dream come true. But because of the negligence of the court system and because my ex lied to the courts about me, he now has my kid. I hope and pray that the court system will give me sole custody because I am the more fit parent. I love my little man, breast fed him for a year and a half, and he is my bubby chan. I miss him a lot.
Sorry for making this so long. In my spare time I enjoy writing, drawing, sewing, and I'm learning how to cook. In cooking class tonight we are making Quiche (I think I spelled that right
)
Hope everyone is having a good day.
I'm 28 years old and a mother of one beautiful little boy. He is the light of my life. Until the beginning of Febuary, I was kept a prisoner in an abusive relationship. I was never married to the man and I suffered abuse of mental, physical, and sexual. I called the police on him many times beforehand and he was arrested back in November 2009 for an assault charge which he plead guilty for. Throughout the relationship, he kept all of the finances and spent them on whatever he wanted (which usually consisted of alcohol and drugs.) He also kept my son and I isolated away from friends and family.
We were residing with his parents from 2008 up until the time I got out. I finally got enough strength and courage to make it out. I called the Friendship Center and the police came out to the house. My child and I left the house. My ex was not there because he ran from the police then later claimed that he was not there because of his anxiety issues with people.
When I got out of the state with my son and to my hometown, I filed a restraining order against my ex. The state however, said that since my two year old was born in Montana that the custody was vacated back to Montana. My ex never told the court that he violated the Montana Family Partner Act which falls under the assault. He never told the judge nor made any mention of his violent history, but instead lied to the courts and said I was mentally unstable.
So now I am back in Montana, trying to fight for custody of my son. I have an attorney who is pretty respectable. We tried to work out a parenting plan with my ex that would have allowed us equal time with my son, but my ex refused any visitation whatsoever. I have not seen my son in 28 days and every day that goes by it really does hurt my heart. I have no criminal background, I'm not a violent person, I took parenting class with the court system voluntarily and got a certificate for, and well... I'm just trying to live and get my son back. Just trying to move forward.
The papers have all been filed with the courts. My ex thinks that since I am a manga artist and a writer, he turned in old drawings and pieces of my writings which he wants the courts to use as evidence against me for being a bad parent. If he was able to do that, wouldn't it take away my first ammendment rights? He's also trying to say that I'm a bad parent because I am not heterosexual.
My ex is 25, suffers from severe social anxiety, has a very bad temper, has a history of violence, drinking problem, sells drugs on the side, and is basically your all around wannabe gang banger. He wasn't always like that though *sigh*
Anyways, I hope to gain custody of my child and return back to my home state where I can go back to college and move forward. When I had my son with me in my home state for the little amount of time, he was really enjoying himself. We went on bus rides, he had playmates, took him to the park, it was a dream come true. But because of the negligence of the court system and because my ex lied to the courts about me, he now has my kid. I hope and pray that the court system will give me sole custody because I am the more fit parent. I love my little man, breast fed him for a year and a half, and he is my bubby chan. I miss him a lot.
Sorry for making this so long. In my spare time I enjoy writing, drawing, sewing, and I'm learning how to cook. In cooking class tonight we are making Quiche (I think I spelled that right
)Hope everyone is having a good day.
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