Whats wrong with me? Anyone else like this?

[Jrene]

Every OB/Gyn appt I've been to for my yearly has been with a woman Dr. For some reason I can't see a man. At my last appt I had to see one of the male Drs cause mine wasnt avaliable. They wanted to test me for some std's that I was just tested for by my RE. But I guess when you're pg you have to get tested again.

But I wouldnt let him do it. I felt so weird. I know he's a dr and my vajaja isnt the first he's ever seen, but its so weird to me that a guy would choose that profession.lol...Im goofy!

I need to get over this weird fetish about male Drs. Cause one could very well deliver my baby. The thought makes me almost

[MaerynPearl]

you aren't alone! I ADORE my GP... she is a wonderful woman and a great mother and thus I know she KNOWS what I am going through, and doesn't just have a book-learning understanding of it.

I had a male doctor with my miscarriage. I hated it, I hated him. Even before I knew I was having a miscarriage, he was just plain not nice or caring like my doctor is...

I had a male ENT and didnt even like HIM (he was really nice, as a person he was cool)... and he didnt have to be anywhere near my lady parts, I just really dont like male doctors. I feel thats a very intimate thing to go through no matter what you are going through... its dealing with your own body... and i just feel more comfortable with a female (even a mean one!)

[tolovemercy]

Oh, you're not alone. I think lots and lots and lots of women feel this way--and I think it's really natural.

I had a male OB when I was pregnant with Peter because he was my only option for a homebirth. He was wonderful--a really great man, husband and father. And he's family practice, which made the fact that he *also* delivers babies seem less weird than if he did it exclusively, . But, he wasn't...warm and sweet and understanding. He wasn't a midwife. He was very non-invasive and hands-off which is, I guess, the best thing a male OB could be. But he wasn't a woman.

Anyway, yeah. Very natural to feel that way. I did, too, until push came to shove and it was him or the hospital.

[Jrene]

I feel the same way. I want a dr who can relate to what Im going thru and feeling. Not a dr that relys on text book and experience. Male Drs dont know what a period feels like or what its like to be a woman.

I meet with "my" dr tomorrow. I think I'll ask her about the birth plan. I might have to have a c-sec but I'd like to try a vaginal birth, but I want to be induced a day shes on duty. If possible. If not, I'd like one of the other female Drs to deliver my baby.

I've never had any "bad" experience with a male dr, I just perfer a woman.

[Houla05]

I also feel the same way. I've only ever had my annual exam done by a female nurse or midwife and I've never seen a male doctor for an annual exam. I just feel more comfortable with a woman and they tend to have smaller hands! LOL. I also like knowing that they can relate. I once had a cervical biopsy done by a male gyn and when I was obviously uncomfortable and in pain, he said "I know this is uncomfortable and hurts a little bit," I practically wanted to rip his head off and say "REALLY?? REALLY YOU KNOW HOW THIS FEELS???!!"

[RedOakMomma]

It's weird with a new male dr. for me, but once I get to know him I feel fine about it. I actually find it equally strange to be with a new female dr....it's the newness that weirds me out. It's so strange to have a stranger sitting there between your legs!

I think it's perfectly normal, though, that a male dr. would get into OBGYN...I've seen how exhilarated my husband was after the births of our kids, and heard one of my best friends describe how much she loves her L&D nursing job...it's incredible to be a part of a profession that helps and witnesses life beginning. Some guys love it just as much as women.

[JulieInChicago]

I'm totally that way too!

My MW practice REQUIRES all patients to see their "partner" OB once during pregnancy to get the "just in case you need a C" talk. It's a guy and I'm totally peeved about this. But the law in Illinois is really screwy and requires MW's have a "supervising" ob, so I guess without him they wouldn't have their practice. Still, it's screwed up. I really don't want to see him, and having to sit in his office and get the "if you decide you need a C or if conditions warrant" talk SUCKS.

[wryknowlicious]

thats funny - i'm just the opposite!
the only woman I've ever let near my hooha is my midwife

I had a female OB and a female OB student give me a pap waaaaaaaaaaaay back in teh day and they both made it HURT.
None of the dude OB's caused pain at the pap.

of course I pretty much am not getting another pap for 5 yrs or so, so it;s a non issue for me at this point. (i've been in the same stable relationship for 12 years and have never had an abnormal pap - I don't see the need for a yearly for myself)

[Chloe'sMama]

I don't like male OBs either. Although, I have to say.... when I delivered DD, it could have been anyone and I would not have blinked an eye. The doc came in at the last minute and was just there to 'catch' the baby and stitch me up. She was out of the room before I even knew it. I honestly can say that I would not have noticed if it had been a man... I actually think one of the nurses present was a man, like I said, I wouldn't have known the difference.

[kl5]

Originally Posted by JulieInChicago

My MW practice REQUIRES all patients to see their "partner" OB once during pregnancy to get the "just in case you need a C" talk. It's a guy and I'm totally peeved about this.

I think we must in the same practice... I have always had female doctors (since childhood) and am not at all comfortable with male doctors for various reasons. I am not that stressed about meeting with the guy, but hate the idea that he would be the OB called in if something goes wrong. I guess I will get over it as options are not exactly plentiful!

But yes, definitely a feeling a lot of us share.

[JulieInChicago]

Originally Posted by kl5

I think we must in the same practice... I have always had female doctors (since childhood) and am not at all comfortable with male doctors for various reasons. I am not that stressed about meeting with the guy, but hate the idea that he would be the OB called in if something goes wrong. I guess I will get over it as options are not exactly plentiful!

But yes, definitely a feeling a lot of us share.

West Suburban? Heeeeeeeyyyy!
Yeah, I wish it cuold have at least been a woman. But if it's his charging us $200 for a crappy office visit that makes WSMW possible, I can swallow it and plug my nose.

[CraftyMcGluestick]

I also prefer a woman and will not go to an OB that isn't one. I just think: how could a man possibly understand this? That seemed especially true when my sister was in the hospital because her baby was breech and the male anaesthesiologist (sp?) kept telling her not to push...like she had a choice when she was 10 cm!--because it was "interrupting" him or whatever.

Did anyone see the recent episode of The Office where Pam had her baby and they sent in a male lactation consultant? LOL! That was a hoot.

[kl5]

Originally Posted by JulieInChicago

West Suburban? Heeeeeeeyyyy!
Yeah, I wish it cuold have at least been a woman. But if it's his charging us $200 for a crappy office visit that makes WSMW possible, I can swallow it and plug my nose.

Yep. Was just there this morning and it was lovely as ever. That place makes me happy. And agreed on above.

[Kelly1101]

I'm the opposite... a woman touching me there freaks me out, I'm only comfortable with a man doing it. I'm probably dysfunctional or something, hahaha.

[darkblue0729]

I am really uncomfortable with guy OBGYNs...always see women, so you are definitely not alone. I don't know why I am so uncomfortable with the idea, but I am . I think at first it was just coincidence, but it has evolved over time into this phobia or something....I know that's probably ultra strange, lol.

[bri276]

I had a female OB and a female OB student give me a pap waaaaaaaaaaaay back in teh day and they both made it HURT.
None of the dude OB's caused pain at the pap.

Yeah, my OB/GYN does the BESTEST paps. I've had to have a kajillion because I had abnormal cells for a long time and a couple of procedures, so I know paps. I still begin to cringe because I'm waiting for the pain/discomfort....and it never happens, I feel nothing at all. He's magic. I also choose to go to him for early pregnancy because he's excellent at doing D&Cs and I have required several due to my condition that causes miscarriages. I'm very comfortable with him for regular medical care and in fact drive quite a distance to see him.

Buuuuut I prefer a woman, specifically a woman who has been pregnant (I don't care how they gave birth) for prenatal care after the 2nd tri and delivery. I'm switching to a m/w now that I'm basically in the clear.

OTOH, I've heard some women say they're happier with a male because they're not projecting their own experience onto what you're going through, and I think there may be some merit to that as well.