Originally Posted by Polliwog
What are the cultural norms in Costa Rica about young children and supervision?
Well I and the girl's dad are US citizens, her mom is Colombian, and my dh is from Scotland...so...I have no real clue, but from my experience here it's been pretty laid back but always in gated/secured areas. Though even in the open communities kids tend to roam free from 4 and up between houses, it SEEMS to me, and everyone in the area keeps an eye on eachother's kids. But my experience is limited to one suburb of San Jose, a shanty town just a wee fit further out, and one indigenous community in the North west, so I can't really speak for the whole country, as small as it is.
Originally Posted by Mamacitac
I think he was joking..a little about the little girl demanding popcorn. My kids beg for stuff too, and I make jokes about them "owning me"
but it's all in good fun. In my home anyhow.
Did the dad get upset you took his daughter from her home without permission? I would be upset. But that's me..again. Just my 2cents. Even though you did a good thing, the parents could have seen it as a bad thing, kwim?
My youngest is 6..and I'm a total "hover mom" I would not allow him out of my sight for 2 mins! Luckily he has an older bro who keeps him close to him though.
I thought about that, but since I had a pizza in the oven, I didn't want to stay and wait for an unknown period of time, nor did I want to leave a wee girl alone scared/lonely/etc. So I left a note on the door to call when he got home and I apologized right away, and just said " i'm so sorry, I wasn't trying to interfere, she just asked us not to leave her all alone, and it was time for dinner for us, so...I hope that was okay. I didn't know what to do." His response was positively like "All right, cool! Send her back whenever."
I also would have said yes, he must be joking, but I don't think she hears the word "no" much, and not in a "we don't say no, because it's too negative." / GD kind of way, more of "we don't want to deal with the tantrum that might ensue if we do." sort of way. I mean, who am I to judge, but her mom has since come to me to explain what happened, and she said: " I was going to take Maggie to church with me, but she said 'no mommy Benjamin and I will stay here playing alone, you go!' so I knew she was with someone until my husband came home and then, well (heh heh) you came just then and..."
So she was definitely embarassed that she got "caught" or whatever, and felt badly. So I've just really let it go. No harm, no foul. I'm now careful to make sure he's home before 6 when she leaves for church (now I know!), and I have let her know anytime she needs us to keep an eye out for Maggie, and we're able to, we will.