My BFF has 10 month old girl twins. She called me this morning for support and I thought I'd ask you wonderful ladies for help!
Here's the situation:
Daughter A goes to sleep at 11 and gets up at 11. She STTN and sleeps in the crib in my friend's room. She would love to get her to go down earlier but is struggling. She usually wakes like she was down for a nap if she goes down before 11. They had to move her to her own crib recently because baby B wakes her up.
Daughter B is the main issue. From the beginning she has stayed awake even later then A so she could have alone time with her parents. Well, it has gotten out of hand. She now won't go to sleep until 2am! My friend and her DH are exhausted! She will go to sleep at 11 like her sister, in her crib, but she wakes 30 minuted later and is WIDE awake and ready to hang out with mommy and daddy. They always bring her in to bed and try to get her back to sleep but she want to play. They finally get her down at 2 and then they both have to get up at 6:30. He's falling asleep while driving, she is slurring her speech and forgetting simple words. She's stressed about her performance at work too.
They really are opposed to CIO but of course are hearing it from everyone as the cure-all for their problems. I reminded her it could back fire and make her an even worse sleeper. I recommended trying to start bedtime routine 15 minutes earlier but am at a loss for other recommendations. (my kid goes to sleep at the same time every night, his choice, but still wakes 2-5 times a night so I'm no help!)
I would love some advice from BTDT moms!
Here's the situation:
Daughter A goes to sleep at 11 and gets up at 11. She STTN and sleeps in the crib in my friend's room. She would love to get her to go down earlier but is struggling. She usually wakes like she was down for a nap if she goes down before 11. They had to move her to her own crib recently because baby B wakes her up.
Daughter B is the main issue. From the beginning she has stayed awake even later then A so she could have alone time with her parents. Well, it has gotten out of hand. She now won't go to sleep until 2am! My friend and her DH are exhausted! She will go to sleep at 11 like her sister, in her crib, but she wakes 30 minuted later and is WIDE awake and ready to hang out with mommy and daddy. They always bring her in to bed and try to get her back to sleep but she want to play. They finally get her down at 2 and then they both have to get up at 6:30. He's falling asleep while driving, she is slurring her speech and forgetting simple words. She's stressed about her performance at work too.
They really are opposed to CIO but of course are hearing it from everyone as the cure-all for their problems. I reminded her it could back fire and make her an even worse sleeper. I recommended trying to start bedtime routine 15 minutes earlier but am at a loss for other recommendations. (my kid goes to sleep at the same time every night, his choice, but still wakes 2-5 times a night so I'm no help!)
I would love some advice from BTDT moms!
