DH is Venezuelan, born and raised, but has lived in the US for 20+ years, so I'm surprised this hasn't been resolved already.
Essentially, he doesn't know his race.
He, honestly, never thought about it until DD was born and they marked "white" on her birth certificate. It bothered him, though he didn't know what else they should have picked, so he let it slide.
FWIW, DH's entire family identifies as white, but he does not. He's the darkest in the family, affectionately nicknamed "El Negrito"; and when very hard-pressed to 'pick' a race, he goes with Mestizo, thinking that's probably historically accurate if nothing else.
But when the census form came, he didn't want to write in mestizo, but he didn't want to mark "white," and he had no idea what to pick for DD (who's half white and half-whatever-DH-decides-he-is). He ended up just picking white because that's what DD's birth certificate said, but you can tell he's not happy about it.
I don't care, and I don't want to force him to pick something; but every time it comes up on documentation, it makes him frustrated and irritable. Any thoughts/advice?
Essentially, he doesn't know his race.
He, honestly, never thought about it until DD was born and they marked "white" on her birth certificate. It bothered him, though he didn't know what else they should have picked, so he let it slide.
FWIW, DH's entire family identifies as white, but he does not. He's the darkest in the family, affectionately nicknamed "El Negrito"; and when very hard-pressed to 'pick' a race, he goes with Mestizo, thinking that's probably historically accurate if nothing else.
But when the census form came, he didn't want to write in mestizo, but he didn't want to mark "white," and he had no idea what to pick for DD (who's half white and half-whatever-DH-decides-he-is). He ended up just picking white because that's what DD's birth certificate said, but you can tell he's not happy about it.
I don't care, and I don't want to force him to pick something; but every time it comes up on documentation, it makes him frustrated and irritable. Any thoughts/advice?








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